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#164109 - 10/30/08 04:59 PM
Girls in our circle
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Registered: 07/09/08
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Got this in an email:
GIRLS IN MY CIRCLE
When I was little, I used to believe in the concept of one best friend, And then I started to become a woman. And then I found out that if you allow your heart to open up, God would show you the best in many friends. One friend is needed when you're going through things with your man. Another friend is needed when you're going through things with your mom Another will sit beside you in the bleachers as you delight in your children and their activities. Another when you want to shop, share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be. One friend will say, 'Let's cry together,' Another , 'Let's fight together,' Another , 'Let's walk away together.' One friend will meet your spiritual need, Another your shoe fetish, Another your love for movies, Another will be with you in your season of confusion, Another will be your clarifier, Another the wind beneath your wings. But whatever their assignment in your life, On whatever the occasion, On whatever the day, Or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes on and hair pulled back, Or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself .. Those are your best friends. It may all be wrapped up in one woman, But for many, it's wrapped up in several.. One from 7th grade, One from high school, Several from the college years, a couple from old jobs, On some days your mother, On some days your neighbor, On others, your sisters, And on some days, your daughters.
And I might add that some may be from BWS!
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#164147 - 10/30/08 07:50 PM
Re: Girls in our circle
[Re: Dotsie]
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Registered: 01/21/07
Posts: 3675
Loc: British Columbia, Canada
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Or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes on and hair pulled back, Or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself .. Those are your best friends. It may all be wrapped up in one woman, But for many, it's wrapped up in several.. One from 7th grade, One from high school, Several from the college years, a couple from old jobs, On some days your mother, On some days your neighbor, On others, your sisters, And on some days, your daughters.
And I might add that some may be from BWS! Have to say the most valuable thing for me about BWS so far, is to simply engage in chat about a broad range of topics. For my closest friends, I don't see them often but when we do see each other, the time tends to be focused on specific topics/shared interests without too much trivia...since time with each other becomes more precious especially when we don't see other often. Currently in my social circle: I no longer have any good friends that go far back as 7th grade. But do have a good friend from high school. And several excellent, close friends from university years. I count on my sisters as great women to be with ..and to keep me in check. I don't get along super well with my mother at this (there is a problem of linguistic fluency here) nor do I consider her a confidante. But she does know intrinsically my character...since she raised me. I keep in touch with only 2 women from former jobs. One of them has been a mentor to me. I used to have a friendship with a neighbour (she was a cyclist at 62 yrs. and cycled to work daily) but then I moved to another province. I don't have any daughters to mentor/confide to. But he has a daughter and now I'm beginning to know 2 much younger women (they are 15-20 yrs. younger than I) which we share some exercise together and chatter together. These 2 women live close to me, so near-neighbours. Even though we email more than phone. Must be a generation thing?? Funny, Dotsie on the timing of this post. Just last night I was wondering if I was more a hermit-woman than I realized. It suddenly dawned upon me that I enjoy chatting with other women but I avoid women where talk is just the same old trivial topics over and over. I like being around women where we can talk widely and deeply about many different topics each time.
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#164175 - 10/30/08 10:29 PM
Re: Girls in our circle
[Re: Dotsie]
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Registered: 09/10/08
Posts: 63
Loc: Arkansas
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I have friends of varying ages and interests. I feel that this gives my life balance and a different perspective and keeps me from falling into a rut with only physical-fitness nuts!! I love to go to the movies and lunch with one, a day-out-of-town with another to shop, a concert and dinner with another, being there when they have a medical problem. Most of these women have become friends since my divorce and are also divorced, so we share a common bond. We all know that we can count on each other to be there in times of need. I feel fortunate to have them in my life.
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#164340 - 11/02/08 04:12 AM
Re: Girls in our circle
[Re: chatty lady]
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Registered: 01/21/07
Posts: 3675
Loc: British Columbia, Canada
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But maybe chatty it's your natural tendency to be selective with friends.
It's not easy but it helps alot more for women with hermit-like tendencies to live in areas where there is a wide variety of activities and events that occur often and don't require knowing neighbours. Not all neighbours..are great folks. Not even when I was a child when we knew all our neighbours on our street.
Right now given the reality that I don't even get home until just before 7:00pm during the week, really cuts down alot of personal time. It makes it even near impossible for me to attend continuing education sessions or courses during the week. Which leaves the weekends as highly precious.
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#164344 - 11/02/08 01:29 PM
Re: Girls in our circle
[Re: orchid]
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MustangGal
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I also arrive home just shy of 7:00 PM and make an attempt to spend quality time with my friends (2 cats, dawg and horse - which can be hard work at times). Yet, for the single gals I think it can be a bit more difficult to socialize b/c not only do we work, but b/c we're just one person to take care of the house, yard, chores, parent (for those w/ children) and caretaker (for those who care for their aging parents).
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#164514 - 11/04/08 06:01 AM
Re: Girls in our circle
[Re: Dotsie]
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Registered: 01/21/07
Posts: 3675
Loc: British Columbia, Canada
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That's true Mustang. I have a single friend who owns 2 properties..the house that she inherited from her parents and the cottage she bought ages ago. 2 places are 150 kms. apart. I don't know how she does it..She also has had some busy full-times jobs which required her to commute at least 50 kms. one way.
Just a year ago, she had to take up a rental apartment in a totally different city...about 200 kms. away from both her properites..to pursue a job opportunity (on contract) that was a perfect match for her expertise and a good salary to make it worthwhile.
She finds ways of keeping in contact..but it does tend to be at a distance. She lives in her primary home now..in a town of 2,000 people...where she was raised.
I think the reality is that if a woman wants to pursue education beyond her hometown (especially if there isn't a home college/university) or find a job that matches what she studied/she is most interested in, there's a strong chance she will end up moving away from her birthplace for awhile or forever.
Or the reverse with a partner who makes a move to go elsewhere...
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