Ideas for divorce "care package".

Posted by: Di

Ideas for divorce "care package". - 01/28/10 12:40 AM

Ladies,

I'd like some input as to what to give a loved one who is needing some TLC. Other than some of our products, what else might be good. Maybe a GOOD book that is VERY helpful; or that certain "just what I needed during this time". Maybe a CD or, well, I don't know. But something useful/beneficial.

This person does not live nearby so it has to be small/mailable.

Thanks!
Posted by: chatty lady

Re: Ideas for divorce "care package". - 01/28/10 01:29 AM

After a divorce or death, whatever, your loved one or just a friend may be suffering from, try visiting them. Show your face and take them some pastry and be prepared to spend some quality time there with them, maybe help do up some dishes, make a few beds, anything that will get their mind on you and what you are doing. BUT also be ready to LISTEN to what they are saying. If nice enough take a walk outside in the fresh air or a drive. But be willing to be there "IN PERSON" to show your support and caring... When widowed twice and wanting to die myself, those people coming to my home just to sit with me, let me cry, hold my hand if needed are the ones I remember best and appreciated the most... If they are too far away then by all means do send them something nice.
Posted by: Di

Re: Ideas for divorce "care package". - 01/28/10 01:58 AM

Yes, too far.........across the pond! Listening is what I've done for a long time....she needs something "touchable" now.....

Any more ideas!!
Posted by: Edelweiss3

Re: Ideas for divorce "care package". - 01/28/10 07:45 AM

A "build her up book" is something I think I would devour.
A CD might make her cry...wouldn't want that.
I think an encouraging book is just the right thing.
Posted by: chatty lady

Re: Ideas for divorce "care package". - 01/29/10 01:41 AM

If I may be so bold to suggest a nice afghan she can snuggle in and feel warm and secure...!
Posted by: Anne-MarieH

Re: Ideas for divorce "care package". - 01/29/10 05:04 PM

Would she like a journal? A safe place where she could write her private thoughts, fears and accomplishments, big and small. I've done this and found it very therapeutic. A year later, I reread my entries and was amazed at how far I had come in that timeframe. Truly encouraged me to move on with my life.
Posted by: Dotsie

Re: Ideas for divorce "care package". - 01/29/10 07:09 PM

How about some nice tea or coffee?

Maybe a book of inspirational quotes?
Posted by: chatty lady

Re: Ideas for divorce "care package". - 01/30/10 12:26 AM

Anne-MarieH, Journaling is a wonderful way to bring ones thoughts to the forefront and rereading them a year or so later says alot to the writer about themseves. Hopefully they see an improvement in their life and learn from past mistakes. Great idea!
Posted by: chatty lady

Re: Ideas for divorce "care package". - 02/01/10 10:15 PM

I* hate divorce, especially when it isn't a decision made by both parties. One person always gets hurt due to their partners lack of kindness and dedication, also their selfishness. Divorce sucks!!!
Posted by: Danita

Re: Ideas for divorce "care package". - 03/14/10 01:44 PM

I don't think its the gift as much as the thought that matters...this is why maybe even sending her cards consistantly for awhile could help! Its amazing how a simple card with encouraging words can really uplift someone who is feeling alone.

I send brownies through my company....chocalate is the answer to all of the worlds' woes. I don't know what they would charge to send them accross the pond!

Di, being a friend is the greatest gift you can give her. I had two or three people when I went through my divorce who were my strength!

You are a treasure for caring and supporting!
Posted by: Dotsie

Re: Ideas for divorce "care package". - 03/14/10 05:54 PM

Danita, I am a big fan of cards and notes sent through snail mail. Great idea to send maybe one a week while someone's going through a big change.