Thanks for these excellent replies! She is a wonderful mother, but I think the money issue is the big draw. Her DH already went out to buy a new truck (the baby is not even in the day care a month!)...so it must be money.

It's just so, so sad. I feel for DH, being the grandpa. And I'm sure her mother is also upset over it. We do not live closeby, so we cannot "check in".

I have to restrain myself, though. She knows how I feel because I've mentioned the above scenario (re: my first post) to her. So, she knows.

This is when it is so frustrating not having any children. We CNBC'ers (Childless not by choice) really do know how to raise kids, we just cannot make any suggestions because we just don't count.

Oh well.........I'll just practice keeping my tongue inside my mouth!!