My Grandparents raised me and although I did not know so then many shows of jealousy were attempted.The worst was from an older cousin(3 years older) who sent a Christmas card with my birth surname(not used apart from formalities) and c/o my Grandparents.She had it posted in a town where my Father might have been.He was not on the scene.There was a veiled hint he would collect me from school.I asked everyone who this card came from...the Aunts closed ranks and Margaretseemed to be let off.This scared me...I only knew half the story.
In mmaturity I see she did not get off with it.She has it in her past.
Because there was more time for me and more money around my Grandparents enjoyed having me.In both cases I did the important things at their end.I saw the love they felt.
There had been a baby whose name I have who died and this may be the way the used that love.
My cousin's behaviour taught me to suss out the bullies and I absorb their attempts to challenge.
Its all in the past but cathartic to share.
Dancer you are so welcome here and its the other forums loss.
.Mountain ash