I agree Kathryn -- great answer

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I agree Dotsie -- everyone grieves in their own time

We take it personal when we get letters like Candice did -- after all -- it IS personal -- and it would be nice if these organizations could know each and every persons thoughts and when is a "good time" to "solicit" funds --

I have a college here in town that sends Robert letters every new session. I contacted them after the first letter and told them Rob had passed. After the third letter -- I actually stopped by the office and talked to the girl that had helped him get signed up and withdrawn when it got too much for him -- and I still got letters. So now I just chalk it up to ignorance and laziness on their part and I toss them in the trash -- but I know what you mean Candice -- it's still a bit of a "shock" and reminds you of your loss a little bit every time.