AbbyK, welcome. And thanks for jumping in with a thought provoking post.

I do not have any children of my own, so I am reticent to answer. But you may want to check out the thread started by Humlan. The two of you seem to be going through similar circumstances.

Again, welcome and enjoy your time here.
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