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#147733 - 05/05/08 01:08 AM
How "old" is "old"?
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Registered: 08/24/07
Posts: 87
Loc: California
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I didn't know exactly where to post this, so I chose "A Very Fine Whine" because I could be perceived as "whining." That being said, my DH and I were shopping at Wal-Mart today. I was standing in line waiting to pay for my "goodies" when I overheard a conversation between two college-age young women. Their topic of conversation was teaching dance. The gist of the conversation was that one of the women preferred teaching dance to children rather than "old" people. I wanted so badly to turn to them and ask, "How 'old' is 'old'?" I did my best to keep my thoughts to myself. So I ask you, "How 'old' is 'old'?" Is 50 "old"? Is 60 "old"? Is 70, 80, 90 "old"? What do your children consider "old"? I remember the movie "Wild In the Streets" where a little girl asks Max Frost how old he is. His response was "35." The little girl frowned and said, "That's old." The floor is now open to my "old" friends.
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#147734 - 05/05/08 02:12 AM
Re: How "old" is "old"?
[Re: NYWoman]
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Registered: 01/21/07
Posts: 3675
Loc: British Columbia, Canada
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I was just thinking about this age perception and comparisons while cycling by myself this gorgeous morning. I felt terrific..then I realized that my mother when she was my age, had a totally different life ...SHE must have felt her age or older.
It's how you feel, trite...though there are many outside voices that keep insisting we have to live up to our chronological age.
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#147736 - 05/05/08 03:07 AM
Re: How "old" is "old"?
[Re: Dancing Dolphin]
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Registered: 01/21/07
Posts: 3675
Loc: British Columbia, Canada
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Well, honest I "felt" my age last weekend for the lst time I can remember. You know cycling beside someone who is 30 and she was having a conversation with me while we were mounting a long hill. She was not panting while she was talking and was slowing down for me. Now she is in great shape and not all women even her age are so fantastically fit.
However I have to remember that now close to 50 (I'm 49) I can still do that hill, but not necessarily as agile and nimble in style. It was a route I normally do solo, where I don't feel my age.
For myself, who doesn't have children, methinks that the passage time is just abit different unless we have a job that involves working with children. I don't realize the passage of time nor my age until I see my nieces and nephews are growing.
It is possible the state of our present health might affect how we perceive ourselves...and if we are complaining alot about our aches and pains to others, then others will see you as old.
Not saying that one should not complain..better to do something to make yourself healthier and have fun at the same time.
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#147737 - 05/05/08 03:48 AM
Re: How "old" is "old"?
[Re: orchid]
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Registered: 01/16/07
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Loc: USA
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Old is when you see 20-30 year olds and think they are still in their teens.
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#147739 - 05/05/08 02:30 PM
Re: How "old" is "old"?
[Re: gims]
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Registered: 03/22/05
Posts: 4876
Loc: Canada
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Old is when you see 20-30 year olds and think they are still in their teens.
Gims, that is a good one! Can I relate! There's a guy working in our local post office, looks about 16 to me, but he's close to 30, finished university and worked abroad for a couple of years!
For me, there's a generation gap between my mind and my body...there are days when my mind still feels so young that I'm surprised when I look in the mirror to see those grey hairs and wrinkly eyes. My body feels the age more...the other day I knelt down in the card store to look at cards on the lower shelf of the display, and couldn't get back up because my knees just wouldn't co-operate! One of those very young-looking salesclerks had to come and help me up. Talk about feeling old!
But the part of me that feels old the most is my heart. I think that grief has aged me more than time...losing Dad, Mom, my youngest brother, all of my aunts and uncles and several close in-laws in less than 10 years has had an excruciating impact. I'm only 52 and have lost almost my entire family. That has wrinkled my heart and wearied my spirit, which I'm sure comes across to others as "old".
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#147742 - 05/05/08 07:57 PM
Re: How "old" is "old"?
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Registered: 04/15/07
Posts: 1341
Loc: Sweden
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He he! Some days I feel young and spry (everything is relative, of course)..other days I feel heavy under the weight of my years..due to sorrows or problems..or stiff joints or a tummy that is giving me problems (IBS..the runny kind ). The other day a colleague said that she couldn´t believe I was 60..this made me feel 20 and beautiful..then today a colleague laughed, gently, and said..guess it´s age right..meaning my forgetting something. I actually had to laugh with her..but I didn´t feel 20 exactly..maybe just human! But when I listen to my adult kids ranging from 18 to 35..well..35 is old for my 18yr old! And my daughter of 35 tells me that 60 is no old age anymore..And my son of 28 says..but, mom, you can keep young if you keep fit (read between the lines here, I think). And my 31 yr old daughter, single with 3 kids, who just had her heart broken..yet again..well, she doesn´t give a sh.. about my age. I am just mom. The kids I work with..3 to 6 yr olds..they have me starting school in the fall at the age of 6 or dying soon at the age of 60. I mean..what is a gal to think??? My partner is 35 and we are still doing it..and he finds me desirable which is more than I find myself Fun thread I guess the bottom line is that when I look in the mirror..I realize that I am not young anymore..and if I am feeling ok..I think..well, that´s life. If I am not feeling ok..out of sorts..then I can get sad and wish that I had more time..but I am grateful for the time I have had so far..so very grateful! My daughter died when she was 11 yrs old..and she went thru most of the phases of life before she left us I have also lost some dear friends before they reached 60..so I am lucky to be 60..and still be standing upright and can walk with my own 2 feet. I don´t mean to be morose here..just saying what I think and feel
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