Okay.

I know John is not cheating on me, but he has lost all interest in even cuddling.

I am not happy. This has been going on for over a year.
He does not even hug me.

I am losing weight, have told him - calmly - that I miss our intimacy.

He just ignores me. So now, I'm starting to back off.

This "control" over our love life has been going on for years.

At one point, before we were married, I left him because
my needs were being ignored.

I don't know what to do.

I'm too religious to cheat, but did God mean for me to
age without the affection of my partner?

At this point, I am so hurt and angry, that I think I would - might - hit him if he comes near me.

I am at that point.

Just plain tired. We are satisfatory roommates at this point.

I'm 59; he turned 60 in June. But ladies, he's been like this for at least 10 years - and once in awhile in his thirties.

I am very sure he does not have a girlfriend. I was married to one of those who couldn't keep his hands to himself or his equipment in his pants. Actually, if he does, I'm not sure I care anymore.

I've been talking to therapists through the years about this. All have said this is a control issue.

Well, I'm sick of it.

I tried to contact my first husband. He's been missing for thirty years.

I just got a response that he is looking for me.

I am soo tempted.
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Emily in Maryland