Loss of mother

My mother died suddenly this past Thursday. She was 81 and hadn't been in the best of health but it's still a shock. There is so much to deal with. I have a brother who hasn't been in touch for a while so am not even sure where he is. So that means that everything falls on me. I will pop in as I can.

Oh Yonuh, I'm sorry to hear that. It can be overwhelming handling arrangements alone, but it might also be easier because then you can make all the decisions yourself without arguments from others. We'll be thinking of you.

Kathy

Dear Yonuh, you have my very deepest sympathies.
Bless you,
Hannelore

Oh Yonuh, my heart aches with you. Know that you're not alone, we walk through this with you...come here to us when you need shoulders to cry on and loving strength to lean against. You're in my heart-prayers.

Yonuh, Know that I am thinking of you and holding you in my heart. Love to you.

I'm so sorry. I will be with you in spirit today. Know that all of us care.

Yonuh,
So sorry for your loss. We're here for you.

Yonuh, I'm sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

Y, I'm so sorry. I lost my mother many years ago. It's still difficult.

Yonuh, no matter how we lose our we are never prepared. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers as you walk through this difficult time. I hope you'll come in and share when you have a sec. Carry on dear gal, knowing yo are loved by your boomer sisters who can relate in so many ways.

Yonuh,
I know how you feel . I lost my mother of March 5th,2006 of Alz disease , she was 94 years old . It was a very hard year and I miss her very much at times i was depressed , but came though it with the help of friends on here and friends on the Alz web site .

I look back and next March it will be one year and I made it . You mother will always be in your heart . At times I felt like an ophan , because mother and dad were both gone , but I have lots and lots of friends and that helps .

My thoughts and prayers are with yu in this time of loss,of you mother .

Blessings,

Renee

Yonuh, I am so sorry for your loss. I will lift
you up in prayer.
Hugs,
Cindy

Your love and prayers have helped a lot and I thank you for that. I have been operating on little sleep but lots of energy. I'm afraid that if I stop I'll just collapse. Once everything is taken care of, I'm going to go to the spa for a facial, massage, maybe the whole works. I've been taking care of mom for 8-9 years, and now it's time for me.

I'm so angry at my brother for being out of the picture. But I didn't really expect he would have done anything even if he were around. When my dad died, he sent his wife to my mom's and had the gall to call me to ask if she could bring their two-year-old grandson, on a 23 hour bus ride, for a funeral, because they were babysitting and I can only think that he didn't want to be bothered taking care of the child while she was gone.

Anyway, knowing that all of you are here for me has really helped. A heartfelt thanks to all of you.

I am so happy to hear that you are taking care of yourself. Don't waste energy on your brother. Focus on yourself and the wonderful gifts you and your mother had together.
In loving thoughts, Ann

After 8 or 9 years, I'd say it is definitely time for YOU. It is sad when loved ones pass, but knowing they are still with us (I truly believe this, based on experiences I've had), helps. Take care of yourself.
Blessings and (((hugs)))).

I'm sorry for loss of your mother.
As for your brother, you can't help him much though most likely it is affecting him negatively in some manner some how. He'll figure out his loss (meaning not dealing properly with his grief) years later.

Yonuh, my heart and prayers go out to you at this trying time. I wish I could be there in person to support you with a comfort hug. Blessings to you. I am sorry that your brother is acting this way. Please know that we have you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.
luv
chick

Yonuh, I am ever so sorry to read of your Mom's demise and offer my sincerest condolences to you and your family. My prayers for the repose of her soul. God bless.

Yonuh, I can't imagine caring for your mom all those years. Wow. You are very dedicated. It should be fun to see how you choose to use your free time now that you will no longer be caring for Mom. I'm praying for you because I recall that void after Mom died. We're here if you need us. Many of us have been through it.