Step-grandparenting??

Posted by: Louisa

Step-grandparenting?? - 07/24/05 02:51 AM

I wasn't sure where to put this announcement so I'll put it here.

My stepson and his wife had a baby girl this week. I guess that makes me a step-grandmother. Is there such a word? Her name is Elizabeth Grace. They are calling her Libby. She's a first grandchild all around.
Louisa
Posted by: Eagle Heart

Re: Step-grandparenting?? - 07/24/05 03:47 AM

Congratulations! Of course there's such a thing as step-grandmother! I'm one too. Hubby's son's daughter is my step-granddaughter. From the very beginning I've tried to step back and not intrude on the real grandmother's time and rightful place with her granddaughter. I didn't even take the title of grandmother, so the GD (now four) has always called me Sharon.

But despite all efforts to keep a low profile with her, the GD and I have turned out to be kindred spirits and best friends. Our heart-connection is so strong it baffles even me, because I've never even tried to foster that deep of a relationship. But there's no doubt that I love her as if she was my own, and she knows it. A few weeks ago I really "got" how deep that connection is, when she was talking about her two other grandmothers (her Mom's mother in Beijing, and her Dad's mother in Quebec). She referred to them, not as "grandmothers", but as her other "Sharons", using the word "Sharon" in place of the word "grandmother". While it warmed my heart, I genuinely hope she doesn't do that in front of the Quebec Grandmother!
Posted by: Louisa

Re: Step-grandparenting?? - 07/24/05 07:13 AM

Eagle, that is very interesting. Thank you for sharing that.
Louisa
Posted by: DJ

Re: Step-grandparenting?? - 07/24/05 06:17 PM

My ex had a son who was my stepson. Even though his dad and I were divorced, my ex-stepson and I still have a relationship. His kids call me Nonny.
Posted by: chickadee

Re: Step-grandparenting?? - 07/25/05 07:41 AM

Louisa, congratulations, you just don't know the life thrills Libby will bring you! Eagle tell us more about the Quebec Grand-ma. (chuckle)

Same here DJ. My ex's son - my(step)son turned 29 on Friday past. I raised him since he was five. We have never used the word step, oddly enough. I signed his birthday card - All my Love forever, Mom. His first child, a son, will be born soon and I will be Nanny Ang.
He has lived next door to his bio Mom for almost 10 years now. I am very happy that they got this chance to be Mother and Son again. I am so proud of him, he turned out to be a very responsible and loving young man.

chick
Posted by: Sherri

Re: Step-grandparenting?? - 07/25/05 07:47 AM

My stepkids and my kids all call us grandma and grandpa. I would lay odds that no one could tell whose kids were mine and whose are Steves if we were all together.
Posted by: DallasGal

Re: Step-grandparenting?? - 08/03/05 05:55 AM

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Originally posted by Eagle Heart:


Our heart-connection is so strong it baffles even me, because I've never even tried to foster that deep of a relationship. But there's no doubt She referred to them, not as "grandmothers", but as her other "Sharons", using the word "Sharon" in place of the word "grandmother".

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Eagle, I really can't tell you how much this means to me. I'm going through some "step" adjustments of my own trying to figure out where I fit and this has really made me smile. It's really awesome when God uses something like a name that is said to mean "princess" to describe something wonderful as grandparenting.
Posted by: Debs

Re: Step-grandparenting?? - 08/17/05 07:41 AM

Ya know. Its so nice to see something so good come of stepparenting. I wish my relationship with my steps was like yours. Unfortunatly I feel its too late now. Well done to you all for doing such a great job.
Posted by: jwf213

Re: Step-grandparenting?? - 09/29/05 01:50 AM

I have 4 steps and 2 naturals. My husband and I have raised this family for the last 15 years. The kids range in age from 25 to 19. I have always called all ofthem "my" children as has my husband. And, although I am a stepmom (there is a live mom), I will be a grandma to all the grandchildren. The 'step' is truly unnecessary when it comes to grandchildren, to them you are just another grandma!
Enjoy!!!