Having said that Dotsie, even though I spent more time with MIL/FIL, it still wasn't a lot of time. They were very active in their retirement and were always out golfing, etc. That unfortunately, meant they didn't spend
a lot of time with my kids. However, when it got to the point where FIL could no longer golf and he got a mobility scooter, he would occasionally come along to our house and see his grandchildren, which was nice.
Oh, and yes, hubby now seems to be spending more time with her, which is great. I've always felt sorry for her that he didn't see her on a regular basis. We were only 5 minutes from her house, too!
And what a coincidence, Olgraymare! Unbeknown to me, until a recent spell of marriage counselling, my hubby was apparently doing the same, i.e. getting advice from his mother when our children were first born. Two incidents, in particular, always upset me with him and they were apparently the ones where he asked
her advice instead of listening to my feelings/opinion.
However, it's in the past and I'm filing for divorce anyway.
Up until now she has been very amicable about it and my children and I have recently visited with her. So, even though I, too, feel differently towards her, she's always been nice to me and I hope to continue the relationship, if it's possible. (Father in law passed away 9 years ago.)