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#101915 - 01/09/07 10:45 AM
Re: husband's become fathers
[Re: meredithbead]
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Registered: 11/24/06
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i am just identifying with the ladies that married more than once and the priorities changing with the diffrering age. i think i have dun that or it's my life situasion changes so that direct's my priorities...hmmmmmm
I also dune something totally out of caricter and pretty awafull yep sad to say i grow up lol AND got realistick baaa haumbug no longer 16 and it show's on second thoughts I am pretty glade it shows i aint 16 (in my mind the rest a diffrent story, but who cares)
I don't know if i been married if i would of stayed with those long term relashionships. I had a lot of life changes and wonder if it be too much to ask those partners to grow with me and in the same direction or at lest so that we have some common ground.
I ponderring that if your married young (ishy) that one of the things that makes it succesfull in later life is that they grow along the same type of lines as life situasions and circumstances require, I don't know.....
what makes it succesfull over and above them being just great for you......
celtic_flame oh we having internet problems at my house. i am at po's but we not heer often and i only got half hour so typing like mad.
i miss you all celtic_flame
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#101919 - 01/09/07 07:18 PM
Re: husband's become fathers
[Re: Vicki M. Taylor]
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I chose my ex over the rest because he was an exemplary man. A good man. A very, very good man who was deeply spiritual. I knew from the onset that he would be a good father by the way he was with people. And, I was right to have thought that because his paternal instincts were second to none. He was a good husband and a good father and no doubt, would have continued to be so were it not for an alternative vocation which he has chosen to live the rest of his life. His bond with our children could be measured by the affection with which he is continually referred to and held in their hearts. Although initially, they could not understand choices and decisions which were made and excluded us, they do not begrudge nor reproach him for that. My ex was a hands-on father and was the balance to my strict parenting skills.
I don't think that I ever considered whether he would be a good provider. We were both working when we got married so it followed that responsibilities would be shared. We never squabbled over finances and respected each others efforts and contribution.
I dread to think what my married life or shared parenthood would have been if I had chosen another man. I have met the other beaus and their wives and I have always come away thinking that I was glad to have chosen the right man despite ending up a divorcee. And I can honestly say that despite the divorce, my married life was a happy and a good one.
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