I think that men who act like that are insecure and afraid of growing older and no longer being attractive to women. I think I was married to one of those!

Sorry but even though I do respect some men and admire others I'm not sure I ever want to play the mating game ever again. I adore my girlfriends and feel close to them and comfortable around them, relaxed and we have a ball together, that goes for those here as well. No muss, no fuss, no bother. I can't say that about ANY man I know.
Oh, and thanks Turtle for your comment, I just today saw it!

Chatty, I haven't reached that place yet. I don't know if I ever will. The cutie dumped me. He came to my house and spent some time with me as I related before. Ever since that time, it seems I was the only one infatuated or having a great time.
He hasn't spoken to me since and I'm at work right now with a broken heart. He is flirting with a cute girl and they sit together all the time. I was just a side step in his life. Its at times like this I wish I could come up with something clever to say or do or something...but I just have to sit here and suffer in silence....an older woman shunned and used and uninteresting. I asked for it and I got just what I asked for.

Well, the older I get the less I really know and have to seriously question my filters...I really thought he had just shunned me and had ignored and rejected me when in reality, he called me last night and we talked for a long time.
The reason he doesn't sit by me and talk to me is because he is too overwhelmed by me. He thinks I might not approve of him in some way.
He felt like I didn't even say hi to him or acknowledge him or speak to him. He wants to get together again as soon as we can I guess.
I have no clue about men. I have to admit. I wonder if I even know myself half the time. When we say we will roll with the flow, we really do have to and not trust our own instincts sometimes.

He's young. He's someone's son, could have been like... your son.


Fickle..he's got lots of time...way more than you ahead. He's still playing the field, has his gal pals (or more than that maybe).
Don't waste time thinking much about him. You have much to give to grandchildren, etc. And more to know yourself.

NewLeaf, if you question whether you know yourself, why not take this time to get to know yourself better...before you jump into another relationship you are already questioning. Just a thought.

My filters are untrustworthy but I know myself very well. I know all my foibles and the reasons for my actions or inactivity. I probably know myself better than most people do and I accept who I am.

The guy is more a man than most adult men I've met. He is warm and intelligent and even if he and I don't wind up hooking up, I still like him a lot and wish him the best. I don't put restrictions on myself that are unnecessary and foolish. Life is here for us to experience and enjoy in its completeness.

Its really stupid to compare this young man to anyone's son...all men are the sons of someone...lol If my son were dating an older woman who looked like me and was the person I am, I would be happy about it for him.

But...you are bouncing from one man to another one. That is the danger.

Well, Dianne, I haven't been with my ex for 3 years as a wife and I haven't dated anyone else in that whole time. I haven't liked anyone in a romantic way for years.

This guy just turns me wrong side out. He is amazing.