Glad to hear there is someone who can step up to the plate and help raise these young children.

Porn in marriage is just asking for trouble. I would be really insulted if my hub looked at it and trust me, he'd hear about it too!

I'm going to start another thread on the porn subject. I know you've had some already in the past year. I found them and read entire threads. I just need to talk about it...well, when I get up the courage, at least. I deal with this now, even though it hasn't been as bad in the last few months. Anyway,when I dare!

Dancer, I applaud your caring and concern but cry for the little girls who may suffer further abuse if they're left in that home.

Your SIL knew. She's complicit. Allowing a tiny child to be molested in your own home is unforgivable.

The new information I have came in today from the chief of police there.
It seems the Child Protection report came back "inconclusive." It said that the little girls knows what a "penis," is and all about it. It also said that the little girl did know her father was nude sleeping with her and my sister in law gave the excuse that they sleep in the nude and walk around that way as well. (This is not true according to her older children.) The chief thought that we could find out more about the report if we called and we will do that today.
He was able to drive today, his seven days were up and he has not been to court yet for the charge where they will take away his license for 1 year. The chief said he was in his truch and off this morning very early. He also said that there was a recent "domestic," in which he was asked by the officer to leave the home for the night and he went "to a friend's home," to spend the night. I think this "domestic," was the day before yesterday.

We are looking for more information and to give more information this afternoon.

It is never ending but we will not give up until he is away from those little girls!

There are two sisters claiming sexual abuse by him when they were girls, and one ex-wife claiming her daughter with him was sexually abused by him. Where there is so much smoke, there is fire. I just hate that the girls are still there with him while they build their case!

dancer9

I'm with you on this, Dianne,NO p or "p types," in my home!
It is my own opinion that p, degrades women, contributes to the abuse of women, helps to deny us respects and rights, and does much more to cause destruction to women!

Also, I don't need it, my husband doesn't need it.

I have friends from school who could not cut it as a dancer. Maybe their toes were wrong, or their legs were too thick, who went towards p because a dancer is "in like Flynn," in the p world.

They show what can happen to a women in that world, and my sister in law, marrying two men who were heavily into p and abused her, is another example.

The last husband's specialty was "p featuring the disabled!"
Imagine his sick mind!

I know that I might be seen as "open," being a dancer, a singer, a model, but NO. I did not participate in ONE nude photo. There is NO nude photo of me in the world!

That is that for me. I am aware others have their reasons
for thinking P is ok. I have enough creativity to not need to excite myself or my lover using such a tool.

dancer, romantic that works out fine.

Lady Jane,
I just posted an answer on this thread. I deplore it.
That's just me.
dancer

dancer, I'm glad that you said all that you did. Thank you. I hate it also...hate is NOT a strong enough word. It's foreign to me after the life I've lived before and it makes me physically sick with some of the things I've found. I do not understand at all WHY men get so hooked. I understand some of the sick psychology of it but I don't understand what makes them think it's okay or "all guys do it." NO, all guys DON'T.

No, they don't! Why do they prefer some fantasy woman over a living, breathing and loving wife who is in the next room waiting and available? It's like robbery.

Thanks Lady Jane.
I just had to write that! And all guys don't, I know plenty!
There are a lot of men addicted to it and that may be why it's so hard to find good men our age! They see no harm in it but if so, why do they hide it from us? When you first get to know a man, they don't confess they love p and are involved deeply with it! They lie and hide it. They hide it because they know it's wrong.
I was told by a friend who is a psychiatrist that p is getting more and more violent to women! How's that for an influence on our sons? BAD STUFF
I'm not afraid to say that is how I feel
dancer

Oh, I really don't want to hijack this thread...but...that, Dianne & dancer is my concern...the hiding. They...well HE says "all guys do it" but goes out of his way to hide it. I don't know why because he also knows how computer savvy I am. He got sooo angry when I called him on it...again...that he flipped over the monitor and claimed I attacked him verbally. Actually I was trying to discuss it like an adult. He says he'll put a computer in his garage just for "it." How does an otherwise sweet, sensitive man go crazy like this? I haven't brought it up for awhile because it means a night of fighting and there's no fight left with me. I want to talk like an adult or not say anything at all. I've seen some of this stuff and all he ever views is bondage...sick, violent, abusive things done to women. It's so awful and it makes me feel numb inside. Not sure what to do.