Sorry to get back to you so late..to both of you. I read all your posts,thought about it.. and that gave me the support I needed to do what I felt deep inside that I wanted to do. I staid home with my family on New Year´s Eve. We had a very pleasant time together..and then I visited with my friend on New Year´s Day..afternoon, evening. When I called her to ask her if I could come and visit with her, I sensed that she was disappointed that I didn´t come on New Year´s Eve. She mentioned that she thought I would come..this was very tough for me to hear..but she was gentle and tentative about it. I told her some of my thoughts..but not too many because I sensed that she KNEW..but only had the need to tell me about her need. Gosh, I hope that you understand what I mean.
Soo..this taught me something about saying "no" in a very difficult situation. Maybe I should have more trust sometimes in the person I say "no" to..because eventho the "no" may not be pleasant, my friend(s) can understand. I know that I do..most of the time..so why can´t I trust that my friends understand, too?
Thank you for your interest and support! And..HAPPY NEW YEAR to you both! What I really mean is..may this new year be kind to you and your loved ones..and may we meet often here on BWS!!!
Saundra..how are you doing???