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#177709 - 03/20/09 11:19 PM
Re: Conversations
[Re: chatty lady]
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Nuts? No unless we all are. Chatty I am alone enough to start talking to myself or someone else and if it wasn't just yesterday that I thought about posting and asking the same question. I say out loud what I coulda shoulda woulda said or done. Naw you're not crazy. My pup enjoys listening to me as I bet Rosie and Rita enjoy you. Besides...you are "Chatty" aren't you? And I am a Chickadee...I'm tupposed to sing like a canary...
And I speak to my Mom all the time.
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#177896 - 03/23/09 04:50 PM
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I have amazing conversations with Gary, even better than the ones we used to have when he was alive. Deep, funny, surprising, wise, intriguing and delightful. I've learned so much about life and living during these conversations over the past two years...maybe I'm nuts too, but he's taught me more about living since he died than I was ever able to grasp in my entire life. I believe there's a wealth of deep wisdom there that we can tap into, if we have the ears of faith to hear.
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#178020 - 03/24/09 06:53 PM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
[Re: jabber]
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I like to think it's my dad (who passed last Oct.) to whom I'm addressing myself, and from whom I seem to get 'vibes.' I believe he's helping me through the hurts. I mostly end up in tears, asking him to forgive me. I miss him so much, and my mom, too... and that's not having been a very important fixture in their lives. I have a hard time imagining how hard it is for you who were favored by your deceased parent(s). The pain of losing them must be astronomical. We are blessed by being able to communicate, real or imagined, with loved ones who have passed.
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#178022 - 03/24/09 07:03 PM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
[Re: gims]
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Gims! I must apologise for not having offered my condolences in time. I did not know that your Dad had passed away a few months ago.
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#178026 - 03/24/09 07:16 PM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
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Gims, feeling guilt towards your father is most likely not necessary. Parents always understand and fogive. If the love is there, then the other stuff is no big deal. I can’t believe what my sons have said to me, which I have forgiven with a wave of a hand. Don’t be so hard on yourself. I speak to my father too. There were times in my life, when all was well, and I didn’t need to communicate . I usually turn to him for advice, or try to imagine his voice telling me what to do, when I’m at a crossroad. He was so very wise, and his fatherly wisdom is the most precious gift he has given me; … It will carry me along for the rest of my life.
There must be something, - really truly another dimension out there. Otherwise how could we all feel fulfilled when we communicate with our loved ones? It shows that everything does flow together. There is no beginning no end…it’s all a circle. I find comfort in believing that.
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#178061 - 03/24/09 10:23 PM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
[Re: Edelweiss3]
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Gims, I too, offer my late, but sincere condolences.
I imagine those who love us most, truly love us, will always forgive us with a wave of the hand, as Edelweiss says. It's ourselves that we must learn to forgive.
I think, Chatty, that what you are saying is very sane. I like Eagle said her conversations are deeper than ever. I believe that when we talk in person, many of us talk between the lines. Maybe only after one person is gone, can we talk to each other completely directly.
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#178069 - 03/24/09 11:04 PM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
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Gims, I suffered from a terrible guilt after my Mom died. Oh, all it would take was a glance at her picture on the wall and I would feel this terrible wave of anguish and guilt wash through me. It was crippling and constant. I knew I couldn't go on feeling that way, but didn't know how to fix myself.
One day, sitting in the bathroom, I just started sobbing and decided to talk with my Mom. I blurted out all of my guilt and shame over being such a terrible daughter, for not being there for her when she went through her cancer (I was living and working on the other side of the country at the time)...it all came spilling out. Then I said, "Mom, there's nothing I can do, I can't rewrite history, I can't go back and make other choices, it's all said and done. What can I do?" The answer was so clear and sweet, "Sweetie, you don't need my forgiveness, you've always had it. I have loved you and I will always love you, more than you can ever imagine. Now you have to find a way to forgive yourself. You're the only one left who still doesn't forgive and love YOU."
Those were such freeing words. I felt her love, I felt her genuine care, and felt the mercy of God Himself washing through me through her words. It took me awhile, and there are still moments when I cringe at memories of how I let her down, but I know without a doubt now that she loves and has long ago forgiven me. And don't forget, Gims, that where they are now, they know everything, including the "why" and the wounds behind our actions and choices. They also know, I believe, that everything DOES work out for good, and that there is always a golden nugget of learning and wisdom in every choice, every so-called mistake, every step we take. It's all leading us somewhere better and good. That's my hope anyway. It's helped me move out of my own hell and into living life much more abundantly than before.
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#178088 - 03/25/09 05:09 AM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
[Re: Eagle Heart]
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Lola, months after or not, I still appreciate your kind words.
Thanks, EW and Eagle... if I felt comfortable enough to tell the dirty, I think you'd understand. I don't feel guilty for anything I've done. Instead, I feel sad and sorry for the way things ended. But, I do so love that you took the time to send words that encourage.
Anno, thanks to you, too? So, how are YOU doing?
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#178127 - 03/25/09 02:15 PM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
[Re: gims]
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gims, after Mom died, I felt guilty for the way I raised my voice at her one day when it was my turn to sit with her. She was very sick at the time and had an attitude which she took out on me because she could always be herself around me. I was in a mood and told her I didn't appreicate her taking it out on me. I also said that I knew she wouldn't talk to one of my sibs like she was talking to me, blah, blah, blah. (Looking back, that's what made our relatinship special.) Anyway, we shared many loving conversations after that, but I felt funny because I never raised my voice at Mom as an adult - though I certainly did as a teen. It haunted me.
After her death, I would visit the cemetery and journal. One day I journaled about that day and asked for her forgiveness, and she in turn asked for mine. I came to a place of peace knowing that we were both totally stressed at the time; Mom was dying, everyone was bending over backwards to do all we could, we were tired, spread too thin, and unsure of her future.
Hoping my story will shed some peace for your soul..
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#178171 - 03/25/09 08:50 PM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
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It poked me, Dots. I just have to buck up and start visiting my mom, again. She's at home now... staying with the sister and brother who lived in my parents' home while Daddy was living out his last days. The reason I stopped visiting her (when she was still in the nursing facility) was because of her taking out on me something I didn't cause or deserve getting the lashing for. But, considering she might have been more comfortable lashing out at me, instead of one of the others, makes me consider it differently.
When I don't want to deal with something immediately, I throw it in this big box I keep available. I was sorting the stuff in the box out this past weekend - I haven't culled it for over a year - and came across a note my mom wrote me years ago, attached to an article she had clipped. It was one of the only notes I ever received from her saying something nice to me... usually her notes and letters were scriptures and PTLs, very little on a mom to daughter or personal level. For someone who has felt so unloved for a lifetime, I was taken by surprise... I guess because the note included a compliment, a rare thing from her to me. I've got to buck up and go give her a hug.
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#178376 - 03/27/09 07:09 AM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
[Re: jabber]
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Do you have to put captions under the pictures, Chatty?
This would call for big party time if the book gets published.
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#178513 - 03/28/09 12:33 PM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
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... Human nature is a weird thing. And the most important issues of life, seem backwards. How true, jabber. Sorry you had to live through what you did. All the books tell us it makes us stronger, builds character. Stronger than and for what?, I ask.
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#178515 - 03/28/09 12:38 PM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
[Re: gims]
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Gims where's your avatar?
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#178709 - 03/30/09 09:08 PM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
[Re: chatty lady]
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Reason for my Avatar is I am unhappy with my results. I have been playing freeroll(free to play)poker tournaments for a chance at a seat at the world Series of Poker this year. The seat costs 10,000 dollars. You have to win 3 tournaments in a row to qualify. I played the first tournament of 450 people and came first place. This enabled me to play round two of 356 people. Two people will qualify for round three. Well I came 7th. I was 5 away from the chance to get a seat at the WSOP. I am hopping mad because I made one tiny mistake and missed a great opportunity but even sadder that I have to start back at square one. I was feeling pretty down and found the avatar with the heart(representing cards) and the tear (representing my sadness)and it just seemed appropriate that day. I will keep on trudging.
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#178711 - 03/30/09 09:14 PM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
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Ah Chick...I can imagine how frustrating this must be AND am so proud of you for keeping on keeping on! Go Gurl!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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#178762 - 03/31/09 09:02 AM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
[Re: jawjaw]
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Chick do you know the percentages of skill versus luck in poker?
Just wondering, cause if luck isn’t on your side can you still come out the big winner?
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#178770 - 03/31/09 11:50 AM
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i know nuthing of poker chick but still i can appriate and be proud of you for doing something so well. I understand how frustrating stuff can be with hindsight but thats what makes experinse, i hope you strive on BUT still be proud of what you have done
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#178772 - 03/31/09 11:51 AM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
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The stuff you ladies were talking up about guilt, resolving guilt forgivbness from spirite and self forgivness, thanks for being so open. That stuff being heared makes a diffrence, i do belive that
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#178773 - 03/31/09 11:52 AM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
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gims belated condolinses also. I missed that and i had wondered were you been take best of care of you in this too.
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#178774 - 03/31/09 12:02 PM
Re: Spiritual Conversations
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You are all so encouraging and believe me it helps. I'm Gonna take a break and do my second favourite thing. I'm going fishing.
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#179132 - 04/03/09 06:50 PM
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[Re: Dotsie]
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I read that they decided to invoke their residency rule this time around, which they shouldn't have waived in the first place. The proposed adoption made me uneasy no matter how noble Madonna's intentions might be because there are close relatives who are not happy with it. Surely people would want a win-win situation rather than have it seem like some rich lady came and stole your granddaughter. There are other countries and children who are real orphans; let's hope she finds one of them.
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#179283 - 04/05/09 02:41 PM
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This was sent to me by my SIL. She lost her DH 4 years ago and is just now coming out of the dark. Thought this was beautiful...
Death is nothing at all I have only slipped away into the next room I am I and you are you Whatever we were to each other That we are still Call me by my old familiar name Speak to me in the easy way you always used Put no difference into your tone Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow Laugh as we always laughed At the little jokes we always enjoyed together Play, smile, think of me, pray for me Let my name be ever the household word that it always was Let it be spoken without effort Without the ghost of a shadow in it Life means all that it ever meant It is the same as it ever was There is absolute unbroken continuity What is death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind Because I am out of sight? I am waiting for you for an interval Somewhere very near Just around the corner All is well. Nothing is past; nothing is lost One brief moment and all will be as it was before How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again! Canon Henry Scott-Holland, 1847-1918, Canon of St Paul's Cathedral 'The King of Terrors', a sermon on death delivered in St Paul's Cathedral on Whitsunday 1910, while the body of King Edward VII was lying in state at Westminster: published in Facts of the Faith, 1919
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#180538 - 04/20/09 04:48 PM
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Just checking in. This is where I left off so it seems appropriate. I am fishing and renewing my body and spirit. An overhaul of sorts. Up early and going to bed early. Quiet time in the morning with God and nature. Life is good. See you all when I return. Hope everyone is doing well.
Don't let anyone steal your joy. Love Andria
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#180565 - 04/20/09 11:57 PM
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Browser, I couldn't bring myself to comment on the poem that you posted before. When I read it, I was still marking the second anniversary of my brother's passing. We used this poem at his funeral, and printed it off on cards with his picture for everyone to take home. When I read it here, it was like a confirmation that he wasn't really gone very far. But i couldn't respond then because, well, I was just too sad to say anything at the time. But thank you so much for posting it. It meant a lot to me to read it that particular day.
Edited by Eagle Heart (04/20/09 11:57 PM)
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#180566 - 04/20/09 11:59 PM
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[Re: Eagle Heart]
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And Chick, it's always a joy to see you and hear your voice here. You came to mind the other day when the History channel had a special on Capt Bob Bartlett. You surely are my Newfie kindred spirit, anytime I see anything about The Rock, you come to mind and heart!
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#180625 - 04/21/09 04:52 PM
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Thanks, Dotsie. It's getting easier. I talk with him all the time, so in some ways I have more contact with him now than ever before!
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#183048 - 05/26/09 04:12 PM
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Hello my missed friends, I will use this thread to post because it is where I left off. So much has happened since I last posted here that I wouldn't know where to begin. I will tell you that I lost my brother unexpectedly. I am without a computer for another while. Still in the beachhouse. I am at the library right now so I took the opportunity to stop in and connect. Maybe in a month or two I will be settled and have access to you all again. I really miss all of you. I will say a big hello to the newcomers and hope to engage in conversation with you when I return. As for my already made friends, I miss you bunches!
Love Andria
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#183049 - 05/26/09 04:46 PM
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We miss you too, Chick. I am so, so sorry to hear of the sudden demise of your brother. My sincerest condolences to you and yours. Please rest assured we'll all be here while you get yourself settled. Prayers and thoughts.
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#183056 - 05/26/09 05:56 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear of your sad news, Chick.
I'm sure many of us are relieved and glad to hear from you. It's good to know that you are able to peek in every once in a while. And as Lola said, we are always here for you.
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#183058 - 05/26/09 06:00 PM
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[Re: Edelweiss3]
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Andria, I'm so very sorry and sad to hear about your brother. I'm carrying you in heart and prayer, friend. If you need to talk, PM or email me. I know the heartache well!
We love you and you know we're here for you.
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#184688 - 06/19/09 11:46 PM
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[Re: jawjaw]
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i not been on for longer chick sorry to hear about your loss. I know we all comphort ourself in thse times or find someway or something of comphort and i am hoping its this way for you too. I know you find your prayer and strenth from that but i hope all the range of other emotions get thir turn too when they are needed.
good luck in thse times nm xx
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