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#197794 - 01/14/10 01:38 PM Is It Everywhere?
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Registered: 06/19/05
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Loc: Kissimmee, Florida
I've read about a lot of different kinds of abuse over the years. I've read a lot of the postings here about it also. What I guess I was surprised about was how much of it there is in our society. I know, I'm probably one of few who didn't know it was so widespread, however, it does surprise me.

I was recently chatting with a couple of friends - one from high school and one a best friend. I didn't know after all these years that my high school friend was from an abusive home. It was never discussed in school or through the years. Last week we were visiting on the phone and she told me how very bad it had been for her. Alcoholic father as well as a physical abuser. I felt so bad that we had never discussed this before.

I knew my best friend was from a home where her father molested her but I didn't know her father physically abused her mother.

I guess I wonder what can be done to make this unacceptable in our society.
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#197834 - 01/14/10 06:57 PM Re: Is It Everywhere? [Re: Sandpiper]
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Sadly, this is so widespread today, that we need to be on the lookout to not turn our eyes away when we see it.

We can help by respecting each other and teaching our young ones right and wrong. DV is a learned behavior.
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#197842 - 01/14/10 07:33 PM Re: Is It Everywhere? [Re: Songbird]
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Also, those who abuse unfortunately have leverage. For instance, should the victim accuse the abuser and not have evidence, then the victim can be sued! Can you imagine. Our society has not only become litigious, but safeguards the abuser while revictimizing the victim!

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#197866 - 01/14/10 10:57 PM Re: Is It Everywhere? [Re: ]
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Registered: 02/24/04
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Loc: Nevada
It makes me so mad to see on nearly every TV cop show, women being abused, beaten and tortured before being killed. I have stopped watching many of them as I believe they instigate much of the insanity we women must deal with.
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#197878 - 01/15/10 12:11 AM Re: Is It Everywhere? [Re: chatty lady]
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Registered: 06/19/05
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Loc: Kissimmee, Florida
You know, I agree with all of you. I think TV helps people get ideas of how to be violent. I don't watch any shows that are violent - can't sleep at night and it stays in your thoughts.

It's sad that our society has allowed this to happen. It's hard enough just getting by, however, when you have to take abuse from those who supposedly love you then the world becomes unbearable I would think.

It makes me appreciate my childhood home and family that I was so protected as to not know about it.
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#197893 - 01/15/10 01:17 PM Re: Is It Everywhere? [Re: Sandpiper]
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Registered: 12/30/05
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Sandpiper I dont watch violence either.A good dectective story solving the incident is enough for me..In fact one episode of Midsommer Murders showed a woman who was pushed into a huge tumble drier and that was enough for me...so I live in a make believe land where I watch the dectective but not ever violence..

We had a peaceful growing up where music figured and family gatherings..and plenty exercise playing games and walking

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#198052 - 01/18/10 02:52 PM Re: Is It Everywhere? [Re: Mountain Ash]
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Registered: 05/05/09
Posts: 311
Loc: Michigan
The statistics are staggering: 1 in 3 women are being abused and every NINE seconds a woman is assaulted. These are GLOBAL statistics (from the United Nations Report).

I don't have statistics on incest or rape; they have been with us since the beginning of time, also......

I survived a childhood of abuse and poverty.....in order to make a difference. I have been working so hard for so long......It is one of my passions to the message out there.

As the moderator of an abused survivors' group, I read the same, sad stories every day.

I've written a 25 page paper entitled: Society's Hidden Epidemic: Verbal Abuse: Precursor to Physical Violence and a Form of Biochemical Assault....may try to get it published.

One thing for sure. I will never....quit speaking up....and out....my goal is national tv.

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#198074 - 01/18/10 04:46 PM Re: Is It Everywhere? [Re: Alice]
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Alice, how are your publications moving along?
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#198077 - 01/18/10 06:09 PM Re: Is It Everywhere? [Re: Dotsie]
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Registered: 05/05/09
Posts: 311
Loc: Michigan
Hi, Dotsie: I am in the process of getting quotes to get my poetry book (Sanctuary of the Soul) printed. Is that what you mean by "publications?"

I haven't submitted my paper on abuse yet, to the ACA.

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#198104 - 01/19/10 02:09 AM Re: Is It Everywhere? [Re: Alice]
Princess Lenora Offline
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Registered: 11/11/04
Posts: 3503
Loc: Colorado
Sandpiper, we did not talk about "it" and we kept our secrets for decades, and generations. It is good of you to listen to your friend and comfort her. The scars last forever. I have noticed an increase in conversations and information about domestic violence, child abuse etc since the internet and social networking sites. It's true that unless someone is convicted, you can't "name" him. The perpetrators of crime seem to have more rights than the victims.

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