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#198944 - 02/02/10 03:30 PM
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Registered: 02/01/10
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Hi, I'm paige, recently divorced after 26yrs. Starting a new life at 47, WOW! I'm excited and scared to death!!! Trying to decide what career path to attempt! I live in michigan. Work options are slim pickins! Thinkin about school. Need some advice. Right now I can't seem to see two feet in front of me! lol!!!
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#199015 - 02/03/10 01:17 PM
Re: Hi, I'm new here.
[Re: chatty lady]
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Registered: 05/05/09
Posts: 311
Loc: Michigan
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Hi, Paige and welcome! My name is Alice and I got a divorce after 31 years of abuse (with him for 36 yrs.)
I've been alone for 6 years now. I live in Rochester, Michigan. One saying I like: "Don't look back, you are not going that way."
I won a scholarship (because I wrote about my life) and am back in school at age 63! I still feel 18.
Hugs n Welcome once again, Alice
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#199016 - 02/03/10 01:22 PM
Re: Hi, I'm new here.
[Re: Alice]
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Registered: 05/05/09
Posts: 311
Loc: Michigan
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Hi, Paige: I sent you a private message, but it didn't go thru. I am the moderator of an abused survivors' group...written my memoir and poetry book (Sanctuary of the Soul) about to be published; won a scholarship and went back to school at age 63! I still feel 18.
Feel free to call me: 248-931-3974...I live in Rochester (MI), or e-mail:wacalice@aol.com.....would love to help.
Smiles, Alice
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#199022 - 02/03/10 02:16 PM
Re: Hi, I'm new here.
[Re: Alice]
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Loc: Alabama
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Welcome Paige to our forum community. We're so glad you've chosen to make this a home away from home. Watch out, because this place is addictive.
I'll make one recommendation since you are fresh off the divorce train and that is to do nothing. Give yourself time. You won't regret it. I'm not saying don't formulate plans or investigate your new heart's desires, I'm just saying step back and breathe...give your mind time to digest all that has happened so that you can be clear about where you will go from here.
I think one of the biggest mistakes a woman can make is jumping forward without first coming to terms with all that has transpired.
And too, if you've already passed the "mourning" stages, (whether you wanted the divorce or not), then by all means, make bucket lists to help you decide where you passion really is; what gets your juices pumping, makes your heart sing. Here's a good question to ask yourself:
What could I do that would make me jump out of bed each day, excited, pumped, and raring to go?
I've found that making list pulls things out of me I didn't even know where there. It's so strange!
Again, welcome!
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#199068 - 02/03/10 11:45 PM
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Registered: 02/01/10
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Loc: michigan
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Wow!! What a welcome!!! You gals are great just what I need. I'm new to the computer, trying to figure my way around. Thanks for those bears!! Sooo Cute!! Thank you!! I will figure out how to send you all neat tidings of joy asap!! Taking a class at the local library on basic laptoping! lol!! Thank god for spell check. I think I needed to hear I've earned time to myself. I really like living alone and my freedom. My only child is 25 and lives on her own, third yr in school. She has been my parent for the past 3yrs. She wanted me to leave him yrs ago, I didn't. I'm now ashamed, I set a bad example for her about men. I have no friends, no other family. I'm truly alone for the first time in my life. I'm ok with that. I don't EVER want another man. I wont share my home again (only my daughter if need be). My only worry is about money. I'm starting over with nothing. No retirement only his ss when he retires in 15 yrs. I'm worried about how I will live in the future. I've got enough for the short term but I need a career. Thinkin about college, Student loans scare me, going into debt to get a job. Its hard at 47yrs when all the applicants are 20-30yrs olds now. I know the job market will shift soon. I'm going from being middle-class to no class, lifestyle. I'm very good with money,we had some put away but he got to it when he found out I was going to leave and gambled it all a way. I've lived on 5 dollars and 500 dollars, its just scary now.. But yes my head is in my butt right now, I do need some me time and it was good to hear. There is my Dr. Phil moment. Thanks ladies for your support.
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