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#217656 - 08/04/12 10:58 AM Re: Facebook friends! [Re: Anne Holmes]
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Any of U have FB friends U message and they won't message back?
What do U do about it? How do U handle such an incident?

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#217659 - 08/04/12 11:13 AM Re: Facebook friends! [Re: jabber]
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Jabber, the FB message notification system doesn't always work well. I've often missed (unintentionally) messages sent to me. If I have a lot of notifications, and just click on the message icon to see who sent them, it doesn't automatically take me to the messages, it just gives me a list of who sent them. So I often get busy and distracted and forget to go back to READ those messages...I feel badly when I do, but in my experience, most people understand because it happens to them too.

If you've only sent one message to a friend and they haven't responded, perhaps that's what's been happening. If you've sent several to one friend and haven't heard back, then that's a different scenario. If that happens to me (and it does), I just figure they either don't have anything to say, or are too busy and don't have time to respond. If it's serious, I'll send another one saying that I need an answer. If it's not serious, I just let it be...let "other" be "other".

Don't know if that helps. I do know that if someone sends me a message that puts me in an awkward situation, e.g., over an issue that I might have a different opinion about, and I don't know how to respond, I don't answer right away. I'll sit and think about how to answer.
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#217660 - 08/04/12 01:09 PM Re: Facebook friends! [Re: Eagle Heart]
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Eagle, Thanks. Am taking all that you said into consideration.
Perhaps they just missed it, or are busy, or trying to determine how to answer. These are possibilities, for sure. I sit back and think how to answer sometimes, looking for the wisest response.
Prayers and blessings...

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#217661 - 08/05/12 03:36 AM Re: Facebook friends! [Re: jabber]
Anne Holmes Administrator Offline
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Jabber, I'm sure Eagle Heart is onto something: One more permutation to her suggestion is that your friend may have a Facebook account, but just not use it all that often. So they're not receiving your message.

I can think if three people who are close to me who have FB accounts, but they just don't use them.

While I believe FB notifies me via my email address when I have a private message on Facebook, I suspect that if I weren't regularly checking my FB account, I'd probably see that notice, think to myself that next time I'm on Facebook I will check for it, but then never actually get around viewing my Facebook account in a timely way. (And then, likely, forgetting it is there.)

In my experience, I have people I know who never reply to my email messages, but if I text them, I'll get a response back right away. Some of us just get into habits with regard to how we prefer to receive messages, and when they don't arrive in that format, we never actually receive them.

Explaining my thought here takes me back to all the tedious communications theory I had to study in my communications classes in college.

According to communications theory: [A message that is sent out, but is not received = an incomplete transaction.]

In my communications theory classes we were taught that we cannot automatically anticipate that a message sent out is a message received. There are just too many reasons why sent messages fail to be received.
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#217662 - 08/05/12 01:10 PM Re: Facebook friends! [Re: Anne Holmes]
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Thanks 4 the feedback! I'll keep trying and see what happens.

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#217665 - 08/05/12 06:18 PM Re: Facebook friends! [Re: jabber]
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Some people don't click on the "Messages" icon. Under that is something called 'Other' when you click on messages; some messages get filed there and no notification is sent when they are.
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#217674 - 08/06/12 10:07 PM Re: Facebook friends! [Re: yonuh]
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Didn't know that, yonuh. Thanks. I resent those three messages again today, the ones sent last Wednesday without receiving a reply. I'll C if they answer today's messages.

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#217680 - 08/07/12 10:52 PM Re: Facebook friends! [Re: jabber]
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Two of these people have computer problems. Received one reply from one sister, today. And the third gal I met at the store this morning; she's been busy. Ya know when you write messages and folks' don't answer, self-esteem takes a beating! Thanks for the support!

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#217682 - 08/08/12 02:08 AM Re: Facebook friends! [Re: jabber]
Anne Holmes Administrator Offline
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Glad you've resolved that mystery. No need to let your self esteem take a beating when it's not appropriate! smile
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#217687 - 08/08/12 10:27 PM Re: Facebook friends! [Re: Anne Holmes]
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Thanks Anne!

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