Life with my husband is a certified roller coaster. Only two weeks ago he started a screaming frenzy so bad I walked out of the house and stayed at a friend's overnight. Didn't even tell him I was going and waltzed in the next afternoon around 2:30. I was still really upset about his bad temper and verbal abuse so I wouldn't speak to him for 36 hours straight. Then he was all apologetic. Ho hum. I've learned not to expect much from him and am satisfied if we're not fighting.

He's an unhappy negative person and things won't really change until he makes up his mind to change, which I don't think will happen. This was just a respite. My life goes on without him mostly. He keeps burning bridges and I've thrown the repair kit into the water. I quit. Sometimes (like this past weekend) he tries to be helpful and nice. That's fine, and I'll do my best too, but there's nothing in the world that will resurrect this marriage.

All the items we wanted to buy were snatched up by the 6am crowd. No biggie; it still was a fun day.

Mine helps all the time. Actually, he probably does more than I do. On Thanksgiving, the only thing he is supposed to have to do is get the beer out of the fridge so there is room for the turkey, get the ice, vacuum and watch football. Then he has to carve the turkey and mash the potatoes.

This year, he ended up having to do more because of our turkey mishap. He had to go out at 9AM on Thanksgiving morning and look for another bird. He really saved the day when he actually found one. It was about eleven pounds more than we needed but it was a turkey. Did I mention that he also ended up making turkey soup? A lot of turkey soup.
Louisa

Louisa, I think your turkey story is worth writing. I've never heard of a bad bird.

Chatty, I hope you'll keep us posted with what he has on his mind. I can't wait to hear. When are you going to dinner?

Meredith, have you left to stay at a friend's home before? If not, perhaps he got the message and that's the reason for the change of heart. Maybe you should do it every time he acts up. Nothing like learning the natural consequences for your behavior at his age...but better late than never! Don't you think?

Going to dinner tonight about 7:00 PM. I am wondering myself but I know he hates living alone and was a very happy man on Thanksgiving so who knows....Hey, I'm no walk in the park to live with either.....

Dotsie, when things calm down around here, I think I will write that bad bird story.

Chatty, I'm curious too.
Louisa

Chatty, please tell...

Well amen and pass the Oreo's. CHATTY? You there? And?????

p.s. Louisa, I'm with Dotsie...I think you should write up the Bad Burd story...I really do!

JJ

I was picked up on time time to the second and whisked away to the Hacienda Casino's Seafood house for a wonderful dinner. Small talk was uneventful and pleasant, food good as always. After dinner we went to a lounge and sat at a small table near the dance floor. There was soft music and a roaring fire in the fireplace. We sipped hot chocolate and he proceeded to tell me how sorry he was for all the times he took me for granted. He also stated that his Life Insurance policy names me as beneficiary and that I and Jason are his sole heirs. I smiled and nodded and asked if he liked the fire? He said, "I'd take you for ice-cream but I know you don't eat it anymore." We left and before I could exit the car, he said: "You know Bunny, his nick name for me, I am making alot of money and it would be better to give it to you than strangers, don't you think?" I say wide eyed, "why whatever do you mean?" He said; " Iwould like to come a live here at the house again, no strings, and pay you rent." I cooley looked him right in the eye and asked, "how much rent?" He said he's paying $850.00 now for a one bedroom and hates it. I said, "well you realize alot comes with this house, like the 2 club houses, 2 pools, 3 jacuzzis, 2 libraries, 2 game and exercise rooms plus you'd have your own bath and storage for all your crap and pretty much run of the house and that doesn't come cheap. If I rented a room I'd want no less than $1500.00 a month and you pay your own food, and clean up after yourself." He didn't say anything, he reached over and kissed my cheek and said, "great evening babe, should I come in?" I said, "nope and thanks for dinner." Got a call about an hour later and he said he would like to take me up on my offer and that he agreed to the terms and would pay one month security deposit. So I think I may have a new/old roommate as of December 1st. Strictly business on my end anyway....I'll allow him to try his darndest to win me over any way he can, BUT no more marriage for this girl even if he turns into a Saint...I have to be honest here and say, he isn't a bad guy and is very funny at times. My animals love him and so do the rest of my family. This could be fun and Lord knows one can never have too much money coming in....

Now just hold your horses for a minute dear Lady...I'll give you "2" grand, buy your food, clean up after you AND your animals and... oh yeah...I don't do windows.

Oops...I forgot about MOH there for a minute hee hee. (maybe next year)

Hope it all works out for you both. One never knows.

If he turns into a saint have him stuffed and put him up for bids on EBay...first ever's bring a bundle...AND

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All in jest - chick

With about 18 pounds of leftover turkey in the fridge and a giant pot of turkey soup, I just had a snack of saltine crackers with peanut butter and marshmallow fluff. I just can't do bird right now.

Last night, we came home from the wake. There was a terrible rain storm going on. I got online. The lights dimmed and bam - off goes everything. The lights came back on in a few minutes and I went back online. Few minutes later - bam - darkness agin. Then, back online. After the third time, I got off the pc. Lit some candles, just in case and sat down to read a book. Two more bouts of off and on with the lights. I finally fell asleep on the couch. Then, around midnight, my husband saw a flash out over the water toward Boston. The power failure lasted for at least 10 hours.

Got up this morning, couldn't have a cup of coffee or a piece of toast. Couldn't get on the pc. Couldn't watch the news. Had the funeral to go to. Lukily, we still had hot water and were able to take showers. However, I couldn't wash my hair because I wouldn't have been able to blow dry it. Thank God for big hair. Since I had done my hair yesterday nice and curly and put a lot of Aqua Net on it, all I had to do was fluff it out, scrunch it up, and add more Aqua Net.

We were getting calls from my husband's work. They couldn't open two of the bank branches and what should they do? We went off to the funeral wondering if all that turkey would spoil. Didn't look like the problem would be fixed any time soon.

We got in a minor accident at the cemetary just as we were parking the car. Dick stopped the car, I took my seatbelt off and started to open the door. The car lurched forward and I said something to him like,"Is this car stopped now, or what?" I thought he did it somehow. I got out and then an elderly man came over and started apologizing for hitting us.

I don't think there was a lot of damage, and in the scheme of things, it could have been worse. But, I'm not in the mood for turkey.

Louisa