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#71011 - 04/21/05 02:04 AM
Re: Step-Son
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Registered: 04/17/05
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Diane, Unique, you are both so right. I am scared to death of him. I carry a scuba diving knife which cam cause some serious damage in my pocket all day in case he attacks me. I have a huge butcher knife on my night stand and one under the couch where I watch TV in what I call 'my room'. This room is where my desk,computer,radio etc that I use when my husband is at work. It is also the cat room, food, litter etc. It is my soliace and the boy knows this room and of course our bedroom is off limits. My saving grace is he does work 10-3 everyday. Unique, yes I do live in Florida and will try and check out the Boys Ranch that you have spoken of. I did a lot of reserach in the FLA gov't website and the programs that are offered there do not apply to us because he has not hurt us, or does drugs, drink, or been arrested. Thank you both so much....It gives me that warm snugglie feeling to know that you two are taking your time to help me. Just having someone that I can spill my true feelings without holding back has been such a releif and blessing. You two have shown such friendship to a perfect stranger. Thank you! Mary [ April 20, 2005, 07:07 PM: Message edited by: Mary20783 ]
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#71015 - 04/21/05 10:20 PM
Re: Step-Son
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My husband doesn't think that the boy will do anything to physically to harm us, that I may be over reacting. The truth is we don't know if would or not. Yesterday was his first pay day and he spent all of his paycheck on himself instead of paying $25.00 a week that he originally agreed to and paying us back some of the monies we have spent on him. He also was suppose to send money back home for his debts. My husband has new guidelines to lay down with him on his first day off, Monday. I feel the boy is just a homeless person living in a room now. I am void of feelings for him. My fears have died down a bit, for now. We'll see what next week brings. I am trying to think the saying Let Go...Let God. Thank you for your support and prayers Mary
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#71016 - 04/21/05 11:36 PM
Re: Step-Son
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Registered: 12/21/04
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Loc: North Carolina
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Mary, do you have a trusted friend, clergyman, mental health advocate or someone the 3 of you could sit down and talk with? Someone that could help him plan for his future. Does he even have any plans, or is he just 'existing'? So many people have dreams and goals but have no idea how to reach them. The 'disinterested' party can be a few different things if involved, safety for you, someone with ideas for him, another person to help hold the young man accountable to do what he says he wants to do. I would recommend clergy or a counselor - someone who has had experience with this type of situation. Of course, if the young man says, 'I wanna be a 'spongebob' all my life.' - you can say...'hey, you're outa here!' Good luck. Let us know how it's working out. Chatty took the words out of my mouth - - I don't want you to be a statistic!! People are just so unpredictable these days!
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