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#76686 - 08/13/05 09:16 PM
Boomer Sisters
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Hi -- it's me with yet another question for the research I'm doing (yes, it just keeps going and going...)
Many of you use the term Boomer Sister. Can you tell me what that means? How would you describe a boomer sister? Is she any different from anyone else you know? Is there something particular about the women on this site that distinguishes them from others? Please think about it and give me details! thanks! If you want, you can PM me with this.
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#76687 - 08/14/05 03:52 AM
Re: Boomer Sisters
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DJ,
I think the term Boomer Sister implies something shared. Sisters are unique in that they have a shared experience. We all were born within a certain time frame, so, therefore, share common experiences from our life times even though we didn't find each other till now.
Sisters typically belong to a family. We all belong to the baby boomer family. Plus, women sharing experiences, dreams, joys, prayers, etc become sisters through all of this.
So, do I think there is something particular about the women on this site that distinguishes them from others? Yes, I do. We come together to get advice from those who understand where we have come from, what we are up against(they may be there or already have been there) and can help us through trying times. They also "give a dam" if you are hurting or have joy to share. That makes us sisters, boomer sisters and sisters of the human race of women.
My opinion of the term. That's what it means to me. good luck with the research. Hope it helps. Let us know if you get enough feedback.
Sandpiper
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#76688 - 08/14/05 09:02 PM
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thanks Sandpiper.
Clearly, just as not everyone is your sister, not every baby boomer woman is attracted to this particular site. Agreed? So what is there unique about this site?
As Sandpiper says, "we didn't find each other till now." We all have known women our own age all our lives.
So what exactly is it that you've found on this site? I'm really trying to pinpoint this.
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#76689 - 08/14/05 09:45 PM
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DJ,
There are different types of women out there. Some are more nurturing than others, some more athletic,or content to spend time completely within their family sphere.
I think what makes this site special and calls to a particular type of woman is what I see everytime I log on here. It is the feeling that these women deeply care whether you are in trouble or need help with an issue in your lives. This site has many different threads and responds to the various needs we all have.
I just finished visiting another site from a post on one of the threads here. Older Wiser Women, while this is a good site, it does not hold the same attraction for me as this site does.
This site calls to those people with empathy, those with a nurturing aspect to their personality, those that believe in the power of prayer, women who believe that women need other women to help them work through sad,trying times in their lives as well as celebrate their joys, humor, and understanding how you feel growing older and what it means for you. A willingness to uphold each other through all of this creates a sisterhood and makes you feel like you've found another family.
So, I guess it would be that this site attracts those women of like minds, hearts and humor. Not all women would fit here, you are correct. But I think that is what makes this site unique.
Hope that helps clarify for you DJ. Sandpiper
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#76690 - 08/15/05 02:00 AM
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Thanks again Sandpiper. Anyone else have a thought on this?
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#76693 - 08/15/05 05:05 AM
Re: Boomer Sisters
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I've been letting this question of "Boomer Sister" sit in my being for the past couple of days, trying to articulate what it is that my heart and soul find here. I still haven't come up with anything more profound to add to what Sandpiper and Smile have already said so well.
All I know is that this place, these women are NESTLED, here in the depths of my being. They are a part of me, their names are etched on my heart. I don't go anywhere without them tagging along in my heart and mind and prayer.
Throughout these past two weeks of being "incomunicado", your names were constantly coming to my mind, and I was constantly and EAGERLY WANTING to pray for each of you, hoping you were all staying safe and healthy. My heart could not contain the care that I felt for my sisters here. Even from that distance and not being able to physically connect to this site, I was still emotionally connected to my sisters...to JJ, Chick, Smile, Dotsie, Chatty, Lionspaaw, Lynn, Pam, and oh so many more! All of your names crossed my mind throughout my days away from here. I've NEVER felt that level of connection before. I don't understand it, or why in all my years of belonging to prayer groups and choirs and various other groups, I never felt this depth of kinship or connection.
The profound loneliness that drove me to search until I stumbled into this site is gone. I can't explain that. Loneliness has been my middle name for as long as I can remember. But even in Quebec, unable to connect, I didn't feel that familiar old loneliness, because I KNEW I had all of you, my sisters, waiting here for me when I got back. What a gift. What an indescribably wonderful gift!
What can I call someone who brings such immeasurable joy and serenity to my life? Friends, yes. But I have a few good friends in my life. And they are irreplaceable. But you are somehow so much more than just friends. I've never had a sister. But always wondered what my life would be like if I had a sister. Being here has given me an inkling of what it might have been like. "Sister" has become the only name that articulates (for me) the profound connection I feel here with so many of you.
"Safe Place" and "Home" also come to mind. [ August 14, 2005, 10:07 PM: Message edited by: Eagle Heart ]
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#76694 - 08/16/05 04:46 PM
Re: Boomer Sisters
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Thanks, Eagle, Very heartfelt description.
So, what I'm hearing from the 3 of you (Dotsie doesn't count-- sorry, hon!) is that this site attracts women who need help and give help, and do so in a caring way.
Sandpiper mentions there's a similar mind and humor -- what can anyone tell me about the kind of humor or the kind of mind that you find here? how is it different from other groups of women you know? [ August 16, 2005, 11:24 AM: Message edited by: DJ ]
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#76695 - 08/16/05 05:53 PM
Re: Boomer Sisters
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I think what makes these "relationships" unique is the unfettered nature of the communication. Among some of the "vets" there is a no holds barred response to things, but it is tempered w/ love and empathy. The humor is unique in that we laugh at ourselves and with each other, not at anyone! I'm always amazed at the ability to put our own foibles out there for millions to read and the cyber laughter that bubbles along the ethernet! The coffee clatch from afar, yet in my mind I hear the giggles and guffaws as we share our stories, I imagine the box of kleenex making the rounds of a warm, cozy room full of overstuffed furniture and the smell of herb tea as we share tears and sorrows. And mostly, this is a safe place, this is a place where those of us w/ intimacy issues, who might never have these unfettered conversations face to face, will share things that need sharing, will ask for help when normally we wouldn't, will reach out and interact w/ love and find comfort in at last, common ground.
I'm so very grateful, that even in my prodigal times, that these woman, these sisters, are here!
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#76696 - 08/17/05 01:28 AM
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I think I have a slightly different (although not altogether) viewpoint here, DJ. I'll see if I can articulate it. I came across this site as a writer who has strong ties with "sisters" in my own spiritual community and in a community of old friends. I'm on other writers' lists but there is not the comaraderie there as on this site. It wasn't until after I first posted that I realized that this was, in many ways, a Christian site and given that I'm Wiccan, that could have been very uncomfortable--even unworkable. I still do feel that I need to tread carefully; I'm sure some women are as uncomfortable with my spirituality as I might be with theirs. But what keeps me coming back? The sharing, caring and openness and definitely the sense of sisterhood that comes across. That's something I think we have in common. And, I'll admit, I'm one of those people who always wants to hear both sides of things and am curious about people who think or live differently than I do. It's often difficult to get past those differences to learn about each other. This is one of those places where I think it just might be possible. Dream of the Circle of Women by Dahti Blanchard published May 2004 by Spilled Candy Books visit: www.dahtiblanchard.com
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#76698 - 08/17/05 04:09 AM
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Registered: 01/27/04
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Ladies you've all said what I would have said - ONLY BETTER! JJ's word "unconditional" applies to every aspect of participation here in Dotsie's wonderful forum....I love "coming home" here every day to see what my fellow sisters are up to.
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#76699 - 08/17/05 04:42 PM
Re: Boomer Sisters
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Dahti, Funny, but I never thought of this as a "christian" site...but I guess from the perspective of people of other beliefs, it could certainly appear that way. There do seem to be many women of strong faith here...but I believe that our belief structure/tradition/culture is just one facet of our total person. I can understand your caution, but I hope you feel welcome here.....life is a journey where we accumulate knowledge and experience. I feel that I should be sure to greet each person and each experience as though they/it has something to teach me. I embrace the diversity of the women here and am glad you are among us.
Kathryn
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#76700 - 08/17/05 09:19 PM
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Thanks Kathryn. That's what is so great about this group of women--I do feel welcome here. Though my beliefs are different than most here (Pattyann being the exception) and I suspect my political leanings are different than many also, there are many, many things I think we all have in common. This may sound a bit lofty, but the one thing I've always thought could truly change the world is when people of different backgrounds, beliefs and cultures really share with each other and listen to what the others have to say without dismissing them because they are different. Unfortunately I think that's a rare thing so it's nice to feel there's a bit of that here. Dream of the Circle of Women by Dahti Blanchard published May 2004 by Spilled Candy Books visit: www.dahtiblanchard.com
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#76701 - 08/17/05 10:39 PM
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Dahti, I want to echo Kathryn's message. I too have a very strong faith, and it happens to be Christian-based, but I fervently believe in - and try to foster, nurture and uphold - our unity in diversity. My faith has been made stronger by embracing, listening, exploring and incorporating into my own spirituality the various pieces of wisdom and insight that have come from other people I've met along my journey.
I agree wholeheartedly with you, that peace on earth will only come about when people of different backgrounds, beliefs and cultures really share with each other and listen to what the others have to say without dismissing them because they are different.
It is my hope that we are learning and living that peace here in this site, that our connections with each other will continue to heal us and teach us how to unconditionally embrace and be enriched by the unique gift and wisdom each woman who stumbles into BWS brings to the banquet table of our lives. [ August 17, 2005, 03:40 PM: Message edited by: Eagle Heart ]
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#76702 - 08/17/05 11:41 PM
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Loc: Ocala Florida
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Yes, Dahti, we are in the minority recognizing a feminine force as the goddess and in a way I felt that treading lightly here was called for. But there is sisterhood here-we are all a part of a whole- a generation of women who grew up with endless possibilities. Some of us here are homemakers, some have vocations, some merely jobs to pay the pipers but we all laugh and cry and worry and dream and this is a place to share this with reverance for others' beliefs and understanding that we may not agree but we can always honor the women we are
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#76703 - 08/19/05 02:46 AM
Re: Boomer Sisters
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For me 'Boomer Sisters' means an understanding of what it means to have been born in a time of innocense and are now living in a time far removed from then. We have become our mother's and our grandmother's and we don't understand a lot of what is going on in our world today. We came from a simplier time...when being gay meant happy, when we could sleep with our doors unlocked and we could play a block or two away after dark (as long as we were within shouting distance of our parents) and not worry about being snatched or abused. We live in a time that sometimes doesn't make sense to use and we reach out to others who might be going through the same things. It's comforting to know that there are women around my age who has/is/will go through the things I did/have/will go through and can come here for advice/comfort/awareness and love. JJ you are right when you said 'unconditional.' The unconditional acceptance we find here...find with our boomer sisters, is unlike any other site I've visited...in fact, for me, there is no other. This is my one and only site I come to for advice and support and to share my day. You are my sisters in a time that sometimes doesn't make sense...I know I will always find a warm place to fall and it gives me an opportunity to give in return that which is given to me. Thanks you Dotsie for this wonderful site.
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#76704 - 08/21/05 07:31 AM
Re: Boomer Sisters
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Loc: Ohio
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There's something else that I find really interesting. This is a website, but many of you refer to it as an actual place. Do you have pictures in your mind about what this "place" looks like, as you type here?
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#76706 - 08/21/05 01:23 AM
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I like to imagine this place as our darling Georgia once described it. A huge old house filled with flowers and memories and lace and old wonderful mementos scattered around. A group in the kitchen Boom Boom, Loisa, Dee helping me with a scrumptous new dish I am making for everyones dinner in the great dining hall and Dianne, Lynn, Chickadee and Donna sit under a large shade tree reading and writing and just talking with one another. Dotsie, Pam and Janis are on the porch swing enjoying a summer smoothie. Meredith is in the craft room with Sugar and Robin showing them some beading techniques. Danita has just arrived for some R&R after a buiness trip. Sandra and Lily out in the garden picking big fat juicy tomatoes. Many other ladies are playing badmitten or just strolling leisurely on tree covered paths enjoying the sites and sounds during stress free moments. Trikster, Reeta, Rosee and the other animals are frolicking in the tall grass. While Bunny and Sammie watch squaking their approval from the huge bay window in the parlor. Laughter fills the warm summer air. I think of this place as heaven on earth, a place to be "refreshed" and surrounded by loving women, with big hearts and beautiful souls. A place with it's very own tiny Chapel nestled next to a babbling brook near a gazeebo surrounded by lilac bushes and roses....My imagination? Of course but it is the way I picture this place, our place....To me its The Boomers Bed and Breakfast [ August 20, 2005, 08:37 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]
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#76709 - 08/23/05 07:51 AM
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Registered: 06/27/05
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Dotsie, Thank you for your sweet words. Reading about everyone's comments has inspired me to write about a wonderful woman I want to introduce you to...my husband's grandmother. I think I'll spend some time this morning doing that...she passed away 3 months ago and although I only knew her a short while she had such an impact on me. She could tell you some stories..She was 93 when she passed away. Chattylady, I love your B&B...when you are aready for reservations, let us know...I, for one, will be there. I love this site!!!!!!
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#76710 - 08/27/05 01:39 AM
Re: Boomer Sisters
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Loc: Ohio
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The more I think about this group, the more questions I have!
Does anyone think of this as a quiet place? We're all just typing to each other. Chatty's B&B has a babbling brook, animals squawking, laughter and talk. What do you think?
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#76713 - 08/28/05 06:46 AM
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Loc: Colorado
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Hi. I just wanted to say that I've read this thread and you are all so articulate when describing how you feel about this site. I too feel a lot less lonely because I carry you all with me. And, like I said on another thread, I don't feel like myself without you. Love and Light, Lynn
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#76715 - 08/29/05 12:15 AM
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Dear DJ I just saw this topic and would like to say that the whole aspect of 'boomer sisters', I believe, derives from her unfailing belief in love and growth and within that love and growth the freedom to accept that which we do not understand, and to nurture all aspects of growth. In essence becoming the love within in its acceptance of life and learning, and love and sharing this without fear.
To all the boomer sisters on this site:
The beauty within the responses of all of you boomer sisters is incomparable, the heart wondrous and the sharing immaculate in its form and expression, for within the heart, that which is....is the love, and within love there is no fear and so ladies, the strength wihin you all is incomparable.
That is what I have discovered on this site...the beauty of women willing to share, laugh and cry, beyond belief systems, beyond circumstances, for love is truly all there is. That has immeasurable value and will never be forgotten!
With love Leigha
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#76718 - 08/29/05 11:27 PM
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Dear Sandpiper
Thank you for your lovely words Sandpiper and I am indeed blessed by your kindness in expressing them.
With love Leigha
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#76719 - 09/05/05 09:33 AM
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Here's from newbie,Rose, on Boomer Sisters...This is so totally awesome and inspiring to me. I "fell" into this site quite by accident...I was surfing the net on the key word "middle aged". I so desperately wanted to connect to someone, anyone, who could validate that all the feelings I have are "normal". I am a licensed therapist, so I realize that "normal" is only in the eye of the beholder or the vocabulary of the speaker! I knew I was a baby boomer, but I didn't realize that a place had been organized for us to connect! As I began surfing your site and reading the entries in the forum and the writings I felt hot tears coursing down my face as I "connected"...connected in a way that has never happened before! I have been tired for so long, sad for so long, unfulfilled for so long, yet my days are constantly filled with helping others. My tank is empty. I am sooo looking forward to being a regular and I have already registered! God bless all of you!
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#76723 - 09/06/05 12:41 AM
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Welcome, Rose-we all share a coming of age time and have all had experiences to share-let us know how to help or share a laugh
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#76724 - 09/06/05 01:37 AM
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Glad you found us Rose....hopefully friendships you will make here will "fill you back up" since you seem to give so much of yourself to others. You've come to the right place! Welcome.
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