Thanks Dotsie, I was also about to edit my post to add that if I do go in January or even if I had gone two days after Thanksgivng my husband would be alone all day. Rob has college classes then goes straight to a part time job where he closes the store by himself at 10:00 p.m. Vicky is a senior in highschool and gets home at 2:40 p.m. She also has a job in which she leaves at 4:05 p.m. and returns at 8:00 p.m.

One of the main concerns of his doctors and a therapist was that he would be home alone, which of course he wasn't. He does drive and has no physical impairments but it's the forgetfulness that is a concern.

It's just hard to leave someone like this for more than say, six hours. Maybe if one of the children was able to be home with him all day it would be okay but as you can see, that isn't possible. They both started these first jobs this summer so it isn't as if they could just take off. I wouldn't expect them too.

ladybug, do you have any retired friends who would be willing to look in on dh and keep him company for a while each day? that's how my mom was able to get away occaisionally when dad couldn't go out.

ladybug, that must be quite a worry for you.

Thought you decided against going or was that for Thanksgiving? Can't he travel if he is well enough to drive etc.? Why not go together and just not stay as long?

The whole point of going Chatty is for me to get away for awhile by myself. Everyone around here agrees that I need it.

He is just a bit forgetful about taking his medications.

If I had gone I would've been leaving yesterday. It's too close to Vicky's 18th birthday on Dec., 10th., and wouldn't have given me but 10 days down there.

I still am considering going the second week of January but I admit I still have reservations about whether or not to go at all.

There aren't any retired friends around and he really doesn't need them to. I just don't know what to do.

Gotcha about your needing a break. Well I'm not sure of your money situation but there are care givers that just come in when needed to and maybe they could pop in a few times a day when his meds are due. I bet if you checked around you could find someone like that through the hospital, doctor or maybe even a friend might know of someone. We here in Nevada have many such services.

Chatty, you don't know my husband! He'd think I thought he's helpless. He's telling me how he'll be just fine. I dunno, I suppose he'd KNOW he's got to remember to take those on time. It's amazing how proficient people can become all of a sudden when the person who usually does something for them isn't there any more. Yes, he CAN afford to have someone come in but to him he'd consider it a waste of money. That's just how he is.

Your last line there says it all and I've been way too serious for way too long.