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#90885 - 10/06/06 09:07 PM Re: How Do I Respond/How? [Re: Dee]
Dotsie Founder Registered: 07/09/08 Posts: 23647 Loc: Maryland	Dee, and I would add that you ask the police to please keep your call confidential. I wouldn't want her to find out that you called. _________________________ Founder Emeritus of Boomer Women Speak and the National Association of Baby Boomer Women. www.nabbw.com www.boomerwomenspeak.com
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#90886 - 10/06/06 11:44 PM Re: How Do I Respond/How?
jawjaw Da Queen Registered: 07/02/03 Posts: 12025 Loc: Alabama	Dee, This has to be so stressful for everyone. I believe I would tell the police as well. And her preacher, pastor, or church family. At least you would have done all you could do with the restraints and worry you have for your own safety. Good luck with it all. And by all means, make sure the police keep things in strictiest confidence! JJ _________________________ Queen JJ www.queenjawjaw.com All Things Royal - 2010 and Beyond Humorist for the NABBW
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#90888 - 10/08/06 03:57 AM Re: How Do I Respond/How? [Re: ]
Dee Member Registered: 06/27/05 Posts: 2561 Loc: Alabama	Wow...thanks for all your support and advice. It helps so much hearing your responses. I put a call in to the Chief of Police and am waiting on his return call. I will request our conversation be confidential and do what I can to protect my husband and myself. My husband and I tried 2 years ago to get mom counseling to show her how she's enabling Robin to continue her destructive behavior but my MIL refuses to do anything...or to get counseling for herself. I've learned that there's only so much I can do and the rest has to be left in God's hands. Thank you again, everyone, for your kind words of support. It means the world to me. _________________________ Dee "They will be able to say that she stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her away....and surely it has not.....she adjusted her sails" - Elizabeth Edwards
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#90890 - 10/08/06 10:29 PM Re: How Do I Respond/How? [Re: ]
Dee Member Registered: 06/27/05 Posts: 2561 Loc: Alabama	My MIL is in as much denial as her daughter...she refuses to do anything herself...perhaps this is where her daughter gets it. _________________________ Dee "They will be able to say that she stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her away....and surely it has not.....she adjusted her sails" - Elizabeth Edwards
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#90891 - 10/08/06 11:42 PM Re: How Do I Respond/How? [Re: Dee]
Dianne Queen of Shoes Registered: 05/24/04 Posts: 6123 Loc: Arizona	I've learned...you can lead a horse to water...same thing with people who really need therapy. They either don't want to go, don't think it will help or don't think there is a problem. Those who refuse to go are usually the ones who need it the most. Dee, there doesn't seem to be much more that you can do. It has somehow become your problem and I'm thinking it's because you're a very caring person. I guess there are things you just have to put in God's hands and pray for a good outcome. _________________________ If it doesn't feel good, don't do it twice. www.eadv.net Boomer Queen of Shoes
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#90892 - 10/09/06 12:36 AM Re: How Do I Respond/How? [Re: Dianne]
Dee Member Registered: 06/27/05 Posts: 2561 Loc: Alabama	You're right, Diane...I do care. I'm still an outsider (the DIL) and I've been told that if I try to pursue doing something about this that my MIL is going to be very angry, so...there you have it. I keep praying and have put it in God's hands. _________________________ Dee "They will be able to say that she stood in the storm and when the wind did not blow her away....and surely it has not.....she adjusted her sails" - Elizabeth Edwards
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#90893 - 10/09/06 03:06 PM Re: How Do I Respond/How? [Re: Dee]
Dotsie Founder Registered: 07/09/08 Posts: 23647 Loc: Maryland	Congrats Dee. I know that isn't easy. Now just be careful not to take it back! Edited by Dotsie (10/09/06 03:07 PM) _________________________ Founder Emeritus of Boomer Women Speak and the National Association of Baby Boomer Women. www.nabbw.com www.boomerwomenspeak.com
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#90894 - 10/11/06 03:33 AM Re: How Do I Respond/How?
von62653 stranger Registered: 07/30/06 Posts: 38 Loc: South Florida	Speaking as a partially rehabilated enabler, I can tell you that your MIL doesn't want to believe her child is as bad as she is because, after all, it's her child. I was like that with my son for years. Nothing as serious as this, but lending money that doesn't get paid back, believing lies, etc. I am in counseling now and it is helping me and also helping the way my son reacts toward me. He hasn't asked for money in quite some time now and I truly believes he respects me more now. I hope your MIL finally gets it and goes to counseling. I agree with the others - take care of yourself and your family first because it doesn't sound like your MIL wants your help. Good luck. _________________________ Vonnie
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#90895 - 10/12/06 01:02 AM Re: How Do I Respond/How? [Re: von62653]
jawjaw Da Queen Registered: 07/02/03 Posts: 12025 Loc: Alabama	Dee, please see your private message from me. Thanks, JJ _________________________ Queen JJ www.queenjawjaw.com All Things Royal - 2010 and Beyond Humorist for the NABBW
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