Msmadness, I am sorry you are going through this and just wanted to post a few ideas, also. Saying you really have no where to go if you left him, being in Russia and all, I feel for you.

Maybe you need to look deep inside yourself and ask the following Questions:

1.Is it just too much trouble to change him, or ask him to be more of what you want in a husband?

2.Is the change expected of him only or do you need to make some of your own?

3.If he changes, do you still want him or are you really wanting out of the marriage period? Have you fallen out of Love, so to speak?

Do you have 'couple friends' that you associate with? Maybe having a couple over or going out with them might stir up a little bit of fun and excitement. Entertain, go to a movie,etc. Maybe even vacation with another couple like a cruise. Getting out of the doldrums of marriage could be the key. A jumpstart to phase 2 if you like.
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