I second what bonnierose said. My ex was always telling me he loved me, brought me flowers and other little gifts. Of course, I found out later that he was bedding anything in skirts. My current partner isn't very affectionate, but shows me in a thousand little ways how he feels about me. I once thought I couldn't be with him because he isn't affectionate, but he respects me, pays attention to me, and tells me how wonderful I am. I trust him completely. We have been together for 12 years now, and things only get better.

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