Angelika, Dear friend, you and I have spoken of this problem many times before privately, and apparently all the things you have tried have failed. That says it ALL! He is stuborn, mean spirited and unwilling to change, even to be kind for the time your wonderful mother has left on this earth and especially when you said all she has ever shown to him was love and kindness as if he were her own son. His behavior was unthinkable and I for one think he needed a wake up call. If you're leaving doesn't change his attitude then so long as your mother is alive, stay apart. Stay with your mom if thats an option, and you can finally have all the quality time you want together, without his badgering and bullying you about it.

He is such a good husband in all other ways as you have said, and that makes this such an unnecessary and evil situation. BUT, like a mouse in a maze he needs to learn the acceptable course and follow it. Love you as always, hang tight, stay firm!
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