Newleaf, stop the drama now. He wants you to react, do NOT CONTACT HIM. He wants to control and antagonize you to gain contol of you and the situation. Separate households exist, continue that existance, move on and once your present legal battle with the grandkids concludes or nears conclusion, get a divorce, or file now. It's time to put the trash out. Please know that I have only your best interests at heart as well as my prayers.