youve been on a rollercoster for quite a while, the hubbie at valentines...and everie couple of weeks hes hurting you potenciallie violent...constantlie abosive...throwing watches and rings at you....giving you ultimatoms..it was bad enough that a few weeks back before the trouble with the kids started that you were leaving him and had left him....before that it was about a mounth prierer he was aggressive and verging on violences in a hotel room you had booked for vaolentines day....
thats just the last lot of mounths with him and its been constant drama and caose...we just hear about it you live through it....then grandkids now this....

one question, do you need this?
what do you get out the marriage?
why do you return?
In your hart do you think he, his actions or the situasion will change?

The onlie power you have is over your self, never him. What are you willing and able to change about your own patterns of behaviour your own feelings and actions In order to stop him abousing you and to get you out of this pattern and keep you safe?....

i agree with the other women its just him manipulating you regarding the blood....if he is passing blood in urine urine then he is big enough to go hospital himself (and would)it might even just be a kidney infestion...Either actualitie its about drawing you close to him again, for control or power over you....dont let him do it to you again?..you can control that bit

good luck