What I have learned is that happiness is a choice and we each make it for ourselves. I started out life thinking I wanted to make other people happy, failed miserably at it, got depressed and then realized that keeping myself happy is a hard enough job!

Your STBex is an alcholic. Alcohol is a depressent. If he stopped drinking, he'd probably be happier! :-))

You might take a look at the book "Authentic Happiness" by Martin Seligman. His site, www.authentichappiness.com [cut and paste], is also interesting.
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Casey Dawes
Wise Woman Shining
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