I don't plan on fighting over anything. My Mom is not as sensitive as I am or nostalgic. My Dad's things do not mean the same to her. I get that.

She starting getting rid of his things the day he died. Went home straight from the hospital and started throwing things out. I am trying not to judge her for this. She may have been keeping busy trying to deal with her grief.

I don't hold on to things, and never have. In my grief I want my Dad's things for sentimental reasons but I know that having them will not bring him back.

I am just going to leave it and see what she does.

I remember my Dad telling me when his Mom was dying (his dad had already passed away) she would say "here come the vultures"
Some members of his family started taking things before she was even dead.

I don't want to ruin my relationship with my Mother. As it is now I barely tolerate her because she is so negative and critical. I don't want to feel any guilt when she goes so am trying to just let it go.
Kate