Today I was involved in trying to help save my sister in law's children as well as her.

She called me and told me that she was checking her husband's i-phone and saw that he was down loading child porn! She told me that it was there on his i-phone and at times he slept in her 4 year old daughter's bed!

She is a battered wife. But this was different!

My husband and myself took action immediately. We called the police in the area and told them what we knew. They went to the home and her husband drove up, drunk. He confronted the officer and was arrested for drunk driving. They held him in lock up last night.

After this he went home and the police had taken possession of the i phone. He admitted to down loading "stories about incest!!!" I was sickened and shocked and was helpless as we are here in Az and they are in Virginia. My sister in law has MS and is not doing well. They have a four year old and a one year old daughter!

When the police and Child Protection showed up today, my sister in law would not repeat that he was sleeping in her daughter's bed! Still, they took her and her daughters to the office of child protection so the young girl could be evaluated. During this time, her husband was at home. He could not drive after the DUI and he was staying in the family home! He is abusive to my sister in law, I know, so I was worried about what would happen.

It is so scary to think that if my husband and I had not taken action when hearing about this from his other sister, nothing would have been done!!

The district attorney was at child protection watching the interview with the four year old. He was ready to arrest and press charges if the girl was shown to have been abused in an interview. As far as the i phone,, they have to send it to a lab to have it searched for the porn and whatever else incriminating is on it! They also have his phone.

I still don't know the outcome of the interview at Child protection yet, but I was told by the officer that she did not admit to him that her husband slept in her daughters bed. He said he felt she was afraid of her husband. If they do not find evidence of the abuse in the interview with the four year old, they will return to their home where he waits! It will take some timem to get evidence off the i phone, they tell us. In the meantime, he may be around those girls again and he may be able to hurt my sister in law again.

Now he cannot drive so he will be home and around them all of the time. My SIL's MS is making it hard for her to drive so she is, in effect, trapped!

I am so worried about those little girls! I also cannot believe that my SIL knew her husband slept in the bed with her daughter for 6 MONTHS of and on, not sleeping with her and she did nothing! I know she has battered woman's syndrome but it's still hard to forgive! Should I?

The police chief in the area called me and told me that he has known that she was abused for 2 years! He told me that they have been trying to arrest her husband for SOMETHING for that long! The DUI was just dumb luck!

This situation has me really very upset and scared, as I said, for those little girls! What kind of a man....

It got worse. My SIL confessed that his two sisters told of him molesting them when they were children and that a mother of one of his children of a previous marriage is accusing him of molesting THAT daughter! He has had children with FOUR women and pays no child support.

He does not work and lives off my sister in law's retirement and social security as well as her inheritance which she will NEED as her disease gets worse!

I am pray that he will be arrested soon, perhaps for the child porn if it is on the phone and they will all be free.

I'm looking for strength, ideas and just support from all of you who have been so kind to me and welcomed me into your community. You mean a lot to me. I was going to get off my computer but I did not feel good about that until I posted this, so I must need support.

I hope this story made sense. I am, as I said before, SO upset and worried. I don't even know yet what Child Protective decided but will know tomorrow if not tonight.
My sister in law is so afraid of him and will not call if he is in the home, he moniters her calls. The officer who took them to CPS told us he would call when he found out the fate of the little girls.

I so hope they arrested him, but that means he has hurt the girl!

dancer in distress!