I've tried to stay away from this because I, too, have a habit of trying to see the WHYs and WHEREFOREs. I think it comes from being the child of parents who didn't care to understand who I am, how I think and what I believe. Instead of guiding me, they ignored me or thumped me with a Bible (preached to me, in other words), or shamed me. I think through the eyes of that child. Residual feelings make me question backgrounds.