Hannelore,
I don't know what else I can add. I ususally jump in and say something but this was definitely one thing I had to think on during my busy times of late. I can only imagine what your thoughts are of this young mother. You've mentioned it several times so I know it's always been there since you've had the baby with you. Time will tell and as everyone has said, the issue is Anaiya now. Be supportive and let them make their decisions. I haven't added much but just want you to know you're all in my heart and very close in my thoughts. Keep us posted!
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