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The Grandparent’s help is always welcome, but there are boundaries that we may not cross.
We have decided to try and keep out of the whole situation as well as we can and live our own lives. Hubby will soon be 70, and he needs more quiet and peace around him.




Who says that you cannot cross those boundaries?

Hannelore, I tried to put myself in your situation and imagined how I would react as a mother, mother-in-law and a grandmother. Those roles would compel me to act and it would not be interfering. Those three roles do not cease to be just because our children lead financially independent lives. It also greatly operates on the basis that you have been called upon to take care of Anaiya. That on its own is a license for you to give a piece of your mind along the lines of "why can't I put in my two red cents when they were not reluctant to call upon me to share parental responsibility". As Anaiya lives with you full time, you are technically in loco parentis which means you have parental authority. So, that's where your authority lies.
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