Jabber,

I honestly believe a lot of my ex's problems were due to internalized anger. Goodness was he angry nearly all of the time the last 4-5 years of our marriage. Nothing ever made that man happy. Men as they age do have drops in testosterone I think. My ex's anger just spread through to me...it made me angry just to be in his presence. I'd just pick up this seething vibe. He really lashed out at quite a few people I understand during this period.

Emotional mayhem is for real!!! I never really experienced it except by proxy through my ex. Even going through menopause, my worst problems right now are just hot flashes and brain farts (oops, fog LOL). But I've always been a pretty easy-going person and menopause is just making me all the more so.