Our souls are fragile and it is fine to see later all the ways we can adjust the dynamics.
My quote

"it is fine to see later" by this I meant "all too well" later to process ways in which we can let others see that what they do is not acceptable.

I dont feel I play any game.In training for TA Counselling we were taught that there are no winners in game playing.

I disagree that we cannot heal the cracks others inflict.We can use grown up thinking to try to understand from a here and now perspective.There will be reminders.But always a new day begins.
So you and I see things from differing standpoints.
Mountain ash