Vi, this is a great lesson: "Today, in my grief, without knowing it, my sister gave me a gift. She helped me reinforce within myself how important it is to honor the needs of others, to address them in the way that is right for them, not try to change them." I'm so sorry to hear about your sister, and the sadness it brings to both of you. The song that comes to my mind is Tim McGraw's "Live Life Like You're Dying" Love and Light, Lynn