Vi - I'm not sure every word we say or all our thoughts are actually "heard" by those gone before us -- I think that power is reserved for God but I do think that our "mood" is picked up on and responded to -- like when we really need to feel their presence

or perhaps they are always around and it's US that picks up on THEM ????

For every one of "those" thoughts that we feel a bit guilty about thinking -- just remember that they had the same thoughts.

Sisters are allowed not to see eye to eye over everything -- you just add to your heartbreak by worrying about something like that -- say what you need to say -- out loud to her -- yell at her like you would have a year ago or tell her your sorry -- which ever the case may be and then do like you did when she was physically here -- forget it --

and then love her and enjoy her company