Oh Chatty, what do you think about a do or die ultimatum? Such as, I want you out of my house by 2/14/09. He'll say, but what if I don't have a job? And you say, I want you out of my house by 2/14/09. He'll say, but what if I don't have an apartment? And you say, I want you out of my house by 2/14/09. Of course, you know you have to be prepared to make it so. In the meantime, you will be making your list of what YOU need to do for YOU to get him out of your house. I would not want to assist him in finding a job and a place to live. He is a grown-up, right? Chatty, you have new adventures awaiting you, and I pray that no one can stand in the way of your rightful destiny. Hey, here's an affirmation: "I release (name of loser) to his destiny. I am now able to claim and complete my own." Works wonders, really.