Anne, sorry to hear about this boundary issue. You know, it sounds serious... reading between the lines... that this guy is immature and selfish. The last place I would go for meet and greet is a bar. Which I frequented frequently in my lost youth. I guess I learned something while getting intoxicated... that is not the place. You sound like you have a lot of integrity. You should be met by such integrity, and nothing less will do. PL