Chatty,
I have an ex husband. I can't stand the sight of him. You are too good hearted girl. Think of yourself first. Take care of yourself, first. If you don't watch out for you, nobody else will. You're kind and helpful. And you should be proud of your Christianity. But Dee is right; as I read her posts I heared your words saying the same thing to someone else. Chatty, if ex won't leave via verbal request, legally evict him. Ask yourself if he would've done for you, what did for him???? I doubt it. Guys, I know, generally are narrow minded: They think only of their own comforts. As long as they're happy, nothing and no one else matters.

Anne you can find an occasional, nice man out there. But I don't think they hang out in bars. What about area country clubs or charities or volunteer community organizations, such as the firehall or wherever they feed the homeless? I don't know. My adoptive dad was good man. My 2nd husband is a good man;
neither boozed it up or chased women or abused anybody!