I don't think i ever heard you whing or whine. quite the opposite in your case maybee a bit more talking would't be a bad thing if you can and not feel too vulrible. I bet it be nice to let some of the women you support through their difficult times get a chance to give you some support now.

the picture you described of him in that state its more than easie to see why you did let him in, as you say the change in his employment statise is something neither of you bargend for and perhapps he'd be gone by now if it haden't changed. Too bad it did and your in this delema now.

if you don't bring this up untill its resolved then i will respect that but i do hope you don't hold back when you need a chat becouse ya think people will think xy or z of you.

anyway preyars still on the agenda and i am whishing ya well coping untill it gets resolved.