Dancer, I agree about the passion,..but some marriages get comfortable too, without passion; still the love has remained.

I recognized myself in your description. Sometimes I feel like I'm acting when we cuddle or hold hands. My heart isn't in it either. I do it, though,- to please my husband. I do it because I think that's the way it should be. But my heart isn't in it. So Expat, I just want to agree with Dancer; once the love is gone, it is very hard to rekindle it. I've been trying, and it is very hard. I have turned into a cold person, at least towards my husband. And that isn't me. I loved being in love. I loved feeling passionate...but something has turned dead. So if you can feel passionate about going on your own, - at least that is a form of feeling alive.