Wow Dotsie, yet another confirmation of my theory!

As for me, I am also continually second guessing myself, as I stated. If I look at it from another perspective, was everything he did to me, petty? Sure, I was able to carry on as normal. I realize that is what Jabber is meaning, no marriage is perfect. But my knowledge and teachings of a marriage, was definitely NOT what I experienced.

My parents had a good marriage. Yes, they fought, but they loved each other dearly. My mother died years ago and although my father is remarried, my siblings and I can still see that he misses her. I guess I base my own marriage on theirs, even though I know everyone's is different. Sometimes I do wonder if I have high expectations. But,I don't think so. Love and respect is all I ever wanted from him, but never received.