Hi Dotsie,

Nothing to report, I'm afraid. After doing my pro/con list, I decided to go ahead with the legal separation. I was under the impression that during this meeting, we were going to set down the terms of settlement first, then I would approach my husband. However, she reiterated that he still has to agree to the conditions before we can proceed. I'm obviously a novice at this. Therefore, it was a very short appointment and I'm no further forward. Both he and I are off work next week, so I will have to get up the courage to discuss it with him.

I have to say this, though. It sure is easy just to forget everything and carry on as normal. If other women can stay in marriages for the convenience, then why not me? The answer, of course, is that I don't agree with it. A friend of mine springs to mind here. She recently admitted that she married her husband in order to stay in the country. I couldn't believe it. But to each his own, I guess.

Anyway, thank you for asking and I'll keep you updated. Take Care.