I think you're absolutely correct Orchid. When I was a widow with one young son and met Chet who was 44, well established in business and could care for the two of us, and did. I never looked ahead and his death never occurred to me.

I do know now what my relatives meant back then when saying, my God girl, he's as old as your parents. I never equated his age with my parents ages, my parents were OLD and boring, but not Chet, he was handsome, oh so sexy, and far from boring. I saw his age with different eyes than I saw my parents ages.
Does that make sense to anyone besides me?

I know now how lonely it can be and how as you said above, these older men I am meeting have issues of one kind or another, usually health, or grown, jealous children.