Thank you, Dotsie and Di! I really appreciate your advice. The more I've thought about this, the more I realize it's so difficult because there are two graduations happening within a week of each other, so I'm overwhelmed. The truth is, there are great qualities about each of his children that I can focus on. His ex and I are not on the best of terms, but I guess I can struggle through the graduations and the two dinner parties, being as selfless and patient as possible. My husband is extremely gracious and wants me with him because he loves me, pure and simple, and wants me to share in his love for his children and their accomplishments. For the sheer reason that I love him, too, I need to practice some major generosity in this situation. He makes it easier to do that, even if his kids and his ex don't!