These ladies have lots of wisdom. Dotsie's "list" is a good one.
EW, that happened to me once, too. I was all set to give his ring back, and HE came to my house. I, too, was upset yet relieved. That was long ago.

As I'd mentioned in another post, it's "affirmation" that we need. You will get thru this, Expat. As with any severing of a bond, the body needs to heal. It hurts and itches and hurts some more. Sometimes therapy is needed to get YOU back on track.

I'm soo sad for you, my friend. I wish I could be where you are. Pick yourself up by your bootstraps and get going on the healing journey.