Thanks for responding Alice.

What you described is definitely my husband. To be honest, there have been more signs of his manipulating ways very recently. You know what mostly bothers me? The fact that he's been doing it all along, it's been right there in front of me all these years, and I still didn't see it!

I can only attribute that naivety to the part of me that still believes in romantic love. I should really start growing up!

I'll definitely get the book and let you know what I think.